“The people, the ideas, the resources you need to heal will come. They’ll appear on your path. Sometimes you’ll think it’s almost magical. Sometimes you’ll resist, saying, That can’t be right. It’s too easy. But your healers will come when you need them, when you’re ready.
You can trust the universe to send healers to you, but also trust yourself…Trust yourself to know what’s right. And remember, healers aren’t your source of power; they merely assist you in claiming your power. They come to help, to bring their gifts to you so that you can find yours. Your heart will guide you if you listen.”
Melody Beattie, Journey to the Heart.
When I met Joe I had been alone 13 years and had not had any love relationships in that time. At first, I was too raw while I was healing from the sexual abuse from my childhood. Then, I was very distrustful of men in general and didn’t want to have anything to do with them.
Joe was different from any man I had been close to in my life. He was gentle, sweet and kind. He never raised his voice the whole time I knew him. In the first few months of our relationship, when I was overwhelmed with feelings from the past and crying, he tried to fix me. He was uncomfortable with my discomfort and tried to counsel me and make me feel better. He was always wanting to help. I told him I had a very good counselor and just wanted him to be loving. He became very patient with my distress. Probably most men would have walked out on me after a few months of that, but this gentle, caring man stayed.
I always felt safe with Joe. That was a major thing for me because I didn’t feel safe with most people, especially with men. There was never a time I felt unsafe with Joe. So many times I got the distinct feeling that Joe was, in fact, an angel and I was the only one who saw him. That someday I would mention his name to someone and they would say, “Joe who?’
Joe passed on, but thinking of him today I still have the sweet feeling I had when he was here with me.
Be patient with yourself and others. Watch for your healers; they will come at the right time and the right place.
Childhood Trauma Affects Your Future Health
Answer these ten confidential questions developed with the CDC and understand your warning signs
Life Options Coach, Counselor, Teacher
Jackie helps individuals take control of their lives. She is the author of Kathy Said, You’re Not Lost to Me, a self-help book for people struggling with anxiety and depression. With a new powerful approach to our lifelong beliefs, plus a modality called Life Options Dialogues, she helps people uncover the beliefs that are keeping them stuck in unwanted feelings and behaviors, like stress, anxiety, and depression.