Bullying Stops When We Stop It
By Laura Fogerty
As parents, we worry about our children being bullied, and with good reason. Nearly 160,000 kids miss school each and every day for fear of bullying. Every seven minutes a child is bullied on the playground. These statistics are worrisome to say the least, but do we ever stop to think about our own children being “the bully?” It is a hard reality to face, but children who bully others belong to someone. Could you be unintentionally raising a bully?
The first step in helping to stem the tide of bullying is not acting like bullies ourselves. If children learn what they live, maybe it is time we take a look at our own personal responsibility for the bullying epidemic.
*Let’s stop bullying our own children by threatening, manipulating, hitting, ridiculing, or belittling them.
*As parents, we can respond rather than react, not just to our children, but also to other people throughout the day. We can respond with reason and compassion when dealing with a driver who has cut us off, a coworker’s unreasonable behavior, a spouse’s bad mood, or a neighbor’s invasive actions.
*Cutting out violence for the sake of entertainment makes violent acts a foreign concept to our children. Violent movies, video games and sports desensitize our children to other acts of violence. When violence is the “norm” and “fun” where do we have to go from there?
*Foster a sense of community with those beyond your inner-most circle. Explore different cultures, languages, lifestyles, music, traditions, and beliefs and treat people equally regardless of socioeconomic status, gender, race, or age.
Leading by example, we can make a better path for the next generation and with that, every generation to come!
Editor, Ask Lala
Laura Fogarty writes “Ask Lala” for the Stop Abuse Campaign. She is a mother, an advocate and the author of two children’s abuse prevention books: I’M THE BOSS OF ME! and WE ARE JUST ALIKE! As a survivor of child sexual abuse, she is dedicated to ACE prevention. Preventing abuse through parenting education. Laura lives on the beach in Charleston, South Carolina.
Laura has an ACE score of 6.