Barry Goldstein
National Research Director
Barry Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence author, speaker and advocate. He has worked in the DV movement since 1983. Barry served on the board of a DV shelter in Westchester County for 14 years including 4 as chairperson. He has been an instructor and later also supervisor in a NY Model Batterer Program since 1999. Barry Goldstein practiced as an attorney for 30 years ; most of his practice involved representing protective mothers.
Barry has written some of the leading books about domestic violence and custody. He co edited two volumes of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody with Dr. Mo Therese Hannah. He co-authored Representing the Domestic Violence Survivor with Elizabeth Liu. Barry is also the author of Scared to Leave Afraid to Stay and The Quincy Solution: Stop Domestic Violence and Save $500 Billion.
Barry is a sought after speaker whose expertise has been welcomed by many organizations including the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Battered Women’s Custody Conference, National Domestic Violence Hotline, American Psychological Association, National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, OVW in the US Justice Department, Canadian Institute of Health, Oklahoma Attorney General’s Office and the Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence. He serves as co-chair of the Child Custody Task Force for the National Organization for Men Against Sexism.
Blog posts about the Custody Court Crisis…
Don’t confuse Domestic Violence with “He-said-she-said”
Judges, lawyers, and evaluators often minimize domestic violence (DV) by referring to the dispute as “he-said-she-said.” They’re wrong.
Family Court uses the ACE Study to protect a child
Family Court Judge trained in ACE Study Research makes contested custody decision saving a child from an abusive father.
Who are the Domestic Violence Experts?
The 2012 Saunders Study found that Domestic Violence Experts would benefit the family courts. Little has changed since.
The best interests of the child
What is in the best interests of the child? Family Courts make these decisions all the time. How are they doing with children’s lives?
Believe Victims if We Want to End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Ft. Hood is the latest scandal where victims of sexual mistreatment and DV were retraumatized by people supposed to protect them.
The Science Behind Coercive Control and Adverse Outcomes During Pregnancy
In a two-part series with the ACECC Journal, we will discuss prenatal non-physical abuse and the long-term effects on children.
Early warning signs of Domestic Violence
Are there early warning signs of domestic violence? What early signs tell the difference between charisma and real character?
How the Family Court’s purpose to protect children became inverted
How three decades of history are driving family courts throughout the West to make consistently irrational and dangerous decisions.
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime and we treat it as such. Some people, mostly men, disagree with our approach. Here is our response.
Who are the Protective Mothers?
Protective mothers are simply normal and caring mothers who love their children and will do whatever is necessary to protect them.
Crisis in the Family Courts
58,000 children a year are sent for custody or unprotected visitation with dangerous abusers. In 10 years, over 750 were murdered
The Health and Safety of Children
Naysayers fail to understand how requiring the health and safety of children as first priority fundamentally changes the courts’ response.
Life and death in the Family Courts
Family Courts are tilted to favor abusers and harm children. Custody courts are mishandling 95% of abuse cases.
Changing our lives
Mickey Mantle told his fans, “Don’t be like me.”, hoping to change their lives away from the mistakes that were about to cost him his.
Why don’t family courts fix dangerous practices?
The research makes it clear that Family Courts get most domestic violence custody cases wrong and often dangerously wrong. This article explains what may cause courts to tilt in favor of abusive fathers and away from protecting children. We know judges don’t want to hurt children, so why haven’t courts found a way to review their outdated practices and create reforms that focus on keeping children safe and healthy?
How to select a judicial candidate
How do you select a judicial candidate to vote for? Make sure the family court judge you vote for is qualified. Read this article before voting.
Recovering from coronavirus crisis
As we recover from Coronavirus the Quincy Solution will help the economy, reduce domestic violence, and protect children in our family courts #custody
Coronavirus hero abused by family court
Court professionals, unqualified to recognize and respond to domestic violence, instead joined in abusing one of our Coronavirus heroes.
Believing Sexual Abuse Survivors
Sexual abuse reports. Who should we believe? Trump, Kavanaugh, and Biden are they all the same or is there a difference? An expert’s view.
What’s a shelter to do? Helping during a health crisis
For Domestic Violence victims and the shelters that protect them COVID-19 and sheltering in place brings special complications. How are they coping?
Listen to the scientists
Good advice for everyone responding to Coronavirus and good advice for family court judges responding to domestic violence and child abuse
How Goats Became the Mascots for Protective Mothers
At a time we can use a laugh or a chuckle an explanation of how goats became the mascots of the Protective Mothers Movement
What Would Safe Family Courts Look Like?
Imagine what it would look like if family court administrators updated their practices and made the courts safe for children.
Coronavirus in a domestic violence world
What about the victims of domestic violence who because of coronavirus or COVID19 are sheltering in place with their abuser? And what about their children?
Confirmed: Custody Courts fail children
More than 700 dead children show how America’s custody courts are failing children. Leading custody expert Barry Goldstein’s article shows why.
Why do Family Courts repeat their mistakes?
Family courts repeat their mistakes causing 700 children to lose their lives over 10 years. Barry Goldstein shows product recalls protect children better.
Reforming family court
Image by Bluehouse Skis from Pixabay How many stories have you heard about disastrous family court decisions? Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways There are too many stories about dangerous and ridiculous custody...
Costa Rica saves child US gave to sex offender
Costa Rica’s courts have saved a child from his father’s sexual abuse contradicting a US family court order awarding custody to the sex offender.
Gaslighting by the courts
Family Court’s failure to recognize abuser legal tactics creates a pretend world that mimics the gaslighting tactics used by abusers.
What judges don’t know hurts children
The standard practices are not just wrong in cases involving domestic violence and child abuse; they are dangerous! What judges don’t know is hurting kids.