The psychology of humiliation
Humiliation affects us as individuals, as members of our society and of our world. Learn more from psychology of humiliation episode of 3women3ways.
#MeToo movement shows achievements and distance to go for sexual violence
#MeToo movement shows distance achieved for sexual violence . Strong,men in powerful leadership positions losing careers over their unwanted sexual demands.
Spending the holidays with your abuser
Many have the choice of attending holiday parties with their child sex abuser, or avoiding family at the holidays. Not an easy choice.
Christmas Present
How many Christmas presents have you bought this year? How many have you received? The best present we can give to anyone who has been abused is presence.
What helps kids exposed to trauma. Hope helps.
Experiencing trauma in childhood is common. Learn about the impact of trauma on children and what some experts are doing to help.
Lots of abuse in the news is a good thing
The deluge of sexual assault survivors are having more impact on our dialogue about sexual assault than decades worth of statistics
The Stop Abuse Campaign calls for increased funding for abuse prevention programs
The Stop Abuse Campaign calls for increased funding for Maternal Home Visiting programs after the murder of Rochester NY boy Jeremiah Mitchell.
Educating the unthinkable
Children don’t have the tools to protect themselves from sexual abuse because their parents are often afraid to learn the facts about it.
One sex trafficking survivor’s story
A sex trafficking survivor talks about the path her trauma drove her down and her goal of helping other survivors heal.
What is disclosure?
If your child has been sexually violated, the word ‘disclosure’ takes on a horrifying meaning, what you do next can make or break your child’s future.
Thank you Betsy Devos. Just the incentive we needed
Title IX guarantees women and girls equal access to education, and protection against sex discrimination, including sexual assault.
Most kidnapped children are taken by a parent. That doesn’t mean they’re safe.
Authorities rarely recognize the seriousness of one partner kidnapping their kids from the other. Their ignorance and apathy can have grave consequences.
Another Injustice in the Stanford Rape
The Stanford University rape case brought to light how unjustly rape cases are handled in our society. Sexual violence law must change
Show trials and real justice. Two out of three ain’t bad.
Three high-profile cases. A serial rape, a child’s murder and a facilitated suicide. Two of the three came out pretty well.
Why Aren’t We Listening?
The system that is designed to listen to children when claims of abuse are brought forth is failing the children it should protect.
The Truth About Bathroom Bills
North Carolina’s infamous “bathroom bill” makes life worse for transgendered children and doesn’t protect anyone
Do Not Suffer In Silence #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
My rape case
Starting over after my rape case meant saying goodbye to the things that hurt. For me starting over meant getting rid of your damn mattress.
He never hit me
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
What To Be “Aware” Of For Sexual Assault Awareness Month
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month; beware not all programs that claim to be about rape prevention actually deliver.
They break, you know
They break, you know. These children we leave behind. Foster care kids have high Adverse Childhood Experience scores. Like all children they thrive on love.
When Lawyers forget Equitable
If a lawyer for women’s rights cannot base their arguments on the fundamental equality between men and women, how good can they be?
Pleading For Power
When we are angry, we are not powerful. We are pleading for power. We are feeling powerless, not powerful. Anger isn’t bad or wrong – just inefficient.
The power of letting go of judgement
Judging others is something I do when I’m afraid to love, when I can’t accept love because I can’t accept myself. When we accept others we accept ourselves.
Is it time to get ‘comfortable’ with trauma?
Childhood trauma (ACEs) is a taboo, damaging, and all too common. Preventing trauma is possible, the problem is so few people are doing it.
We have more control over our feelings and responses than we thought.
Feeling happy, content, comfortable or satisfied when things go well? What determines whether you feel good or bad? Control over our feelings and responses.
Self care. Our number 1 priority
What happens when survivors put themselves and their own self-care first? They become healthier and stronger, and so do those around them.
An Open Heart
Those of us who were abused as children have lived with closed hearts. We were not given the chance to open our hearts and show our feelings.
The man who raped me is dead
The man who raped me is dead. The start of an emotional roller coaster. Because every day we are surviving…even the day our rapist dies.
Forgiving the father who beat me
Looking at my father I didn’t see the man who lay on my bedroom floor to protect me from the monsters in my dreams. I saw the monster. And I forgave him.