Another Injustice in the Stanford Rape
The Stanford University rape case brought to light how unjustly rape cases are handled in our society. Sexual violence law must change
Show trials and real justice. Two out of three ain’t bad.
Three high-profile cases. A serial rape, a child’s murder and a facilitated suicide. Two of the three came out pretty well.
Why Aren’t We Listening?
The system that is designed to listen to children when claims of abuse are brought forth is failing the children it should protect.
The Truth About Bathroom Bills
North Carolina’s infamous “bathroom bill” makes life worse for transgendered children and doesn’t protect anyone
Do Not Suffer In Silence #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
Child sex-abuse law reform would save kids in the future
Removing New York’s statute of limitations for child sexual abuse is the right thing to do now and a major step in protecting tomorrow’s children
My rape case
Starting over after my rape case meant saying goodbye to the things that hurt. For me starting over meant getting rid of your damn mattress.
He never hit me
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
The Heroic Mothers of Lost Children
In the US and many other countries Custody Courts are taking children from safe mothers, ‘Mothers of Lost Children,’ and giving custody to dangerous abusers
CPS and ‘Unfounded’ investigations
My son’s life depends on the outcome of an “unfounded” CPS investigation, but even CPS cannot define what that means. And we’re both scared.
What To Be “Aware” Of For Sexual Assault Awareness Month
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month; beware not all programs that claim to be about rape prevention actually deliver.
I want a divorce
I want a divorce. These four words would forever change my life. I blurted them out without even hesitating as I sat in the car.
They break, you know
They break, you know. These children we leave behind. Foster care kids have high Adverse Childhood Experience scores. Like all children they thrive on love.
Court Forces Young Wolferts Sisters Back to Allegedly Abusive Father
Two sisters run away from the father they allege is abusing them. A custody court judge forced them to go back and live with their father.
When Lawyers forget Equitable
If a lawyer for women’s rights cannot base their arguments on the fundamental equality between men and women, how good can they be?
Make A call And save a child from sex abuse
We’re working together to pass the Child Victims Act in New York. Will you make a call and save a child from sex abuse. Click for numbers and scripts.
Pleading For Power
When we are angry, we are not powerful. We are pleading for power. We are feeling powerless, not powerful. Anger isn’t bad or wrong – just inefficient.
The power of letting go of judgement
Judging others is something I do when I’m afraid to love, when I can’t accept love because I can’t accept myself. When we accept others we accept ourselves.
Is it time to get ‘comfortable’ with trauma?
Childhood trauma (ACEs) is a taboo, damaging, and all too common. Preventing trauma is possible, the problem is so few people are doing it.
Running away from home and then returned to their abuser
A child runs away from home as a cry for help or a desperate act to protect themselves from abuse. Why do we punish kids for it?
We have more control over our feelings and responses than we thought.
Feeling happy, content, comfortable or satisfied when things go well? What determines whether you feel good or bad? Control over our feelings and responses.
Self care. Our number 1 priority
What happens when survivors put themselves and their own self-care first? They become healthier and stronger, and so do those around them.
What Judge Gorcyca taught us about the “success” of forced reunification
Judge Gorcyca sent a 9, 10 and 13 year old to juvenile detention after they refused to meet their father. A lesson in the ‘success’ of forced reunification.
An Open Heart
Those of us who were abused as children have lived with closed hearts. We were not given the chance to open our hearts and show our feelings.
The man who raped me is dead
The man who raped me is dead. The start of an emotional roller coaster. Because every day we are surviving…even the day our rapist dies.
Forgiving the father who beat me
Looking at my father I didn’t see the man who lay on my bedroom floor to protect me from the monsters in my dreams. I saw the monster. And I forgave him.
The other kind of motherless mother
Being a motherless mother is hard, the impact of a mother who has mental illness becomes clear when you become a mother yourself
How Mothers are Destroyed…
Family court systematically destroys good mothers who are battered by their partners or protecting abused children by placing the children in the hands of the abuser
I Can’t Forgive My Mother
I can’t forgive my mother. There are few sounds I hate more than my mother’s voice. It’s high-pitched with constant anxiety: When she talks about grocery shopping or a rare excursion to the movies, she sounds like a little girl recounting every gold star she...
The nonsense of beating sense into kids
There is no evidence that beating kids in school does any good. There is plenty of evidence that it does a lot of harm. So why does it persist?
