Generational abuse torch-passing
Are you the Cinderella or a stepsister in your family’s story of generational abuse? How will you pass on the generational abuse torch?
Strength in brokenness
The world breaks everyone and afterward, many are strong at the broken places.”— Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms. Broken doesn’t mean beyond repair.
#Churchtoo means shut up and listen
many scandals that have rocked the Catholic church. Unfortunately, they have rocked every other denomination, faith, countless secular institutions and countless families. And the pain and tumult these scandals leave for non-offending members is massive. With that in mind, we wanted to share this piece.
5 tips for friends of survivors
Your friend has just told you that they have been sexually assaulted, abused, stalked or raped and you want to support them but you’re not sure what they need. Maybe it happened to them decades ago, in childhood, or maybe it was as recent as today. You want to help your friend in any way you can. Situations may vary, but here are 5 tips for friends of survivors.
How to cope with anxiety
Having anxiety is difficult to explain to people. Sometimes, you feel like everything is falling into place, and the next, your world feels like it’s crashing down on you. Stress, feelings of neglect, worries about the future, all of these can combine into an anxiety episode or attack.
Abuse survivors and our bodies: mistaking correlation with causation
Abuse Survivors and Our Bodies. Did you suffer child abuse? If so. you may care about yourself less because you think nobody cares about you.
Sometimes it’s just time for a new family tree
No matter how much one breaks the cycle of abuse, it can’t magically and retroactively change the leaves and branches of one’s family tree.
ACE scores in prison
The US has the largest prison population in the world and highest per-capita incarceration rate but how are we treating the high rate of ACEs in prison?
Everyone needs a co-pilot
Trusting someone with your story of abuse is a huge hurdle to overcome if you have been sexually abused. You need a sexual abuse co-pilot.
Hierarchy of abuse
Society has ranked types of abuse in a hierarchy it considers most to least bad, and even buckets abuse into legitimate and illegitimate categories.
Why do people blame the victim?
We hear the expression. “blaming the victim,” but do we really know what victim blaming means? Or why we blame victims?
Once I got tired of feeling that…
I got tired of feeling bad tings. Then I got tired of feeling. Then I got better, and I want others to, too.
Doctors, ACEs and trauma informed medical care
Trauma informed care is a crucial ingredient to fighting ACEs, one that is commonly missing. What is it, and how do we ensure doctors provide it?
Gendered crimes different from other crimes. Don’t accept the trauma excuse
Trauma is responsible for a lot of bad behavior. But it is not an excuse, particularly for gendered violence and abuse. This is an important distinction.
Thinking Small in the New Year
Thinking small in the new year people can accomplish more of their goals with less weight on their shoulders.Thinking small in the new year memories last.
Be a Helper
Be a helper to make the world a safer place for people to live in. Be a helper to put smiles on people’s faces. These are easy tasks that don’t cost much.
Small steps towards lasting changes in 2018
There are simple things you can do that will make a big difference in your ability to make big life changes in 2018- or any time.
Keep Calm and Holiday On
It’s important to keep calm and holiday on when you’re around a large group of family and friends. This blog post gives tips to keep calm and holiday on.
How to handle holiday stress
During the seasonal period, people have many tasks. Trying to get to get these tasks done can create holiday stress. Here are tips to handle holiday stress.
The power of tapping
Therapy similar to acupuncture and acupressure gives people a release from chronic pain, emotional problems, addictions, PTSD, and physical diseases.
The impact EMDR Treatment has on PTSD
EMDR Treatment can help if you suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? Discover if EMDR treatment can help you.
How to talk about September 11th with your children?
How to talk about 9/11 with your children? Peace in the world begins with children. Here are some tips.
We have more control over our feelings and responses than we thought.
Feeling happy, content, comfortable or satisfied when things go well? What determines whether you feel good or bad? Control over our feelings and responses.
The man who raped me is dead
The man who raped me is dead. The start of an emotional roller coaster. Because every day we are surviving…even the day our rapist dies.
Forgiving the father who beat me
Looking at my father I didn’t see the man who lay on my bedroom floor to protect me from the monsters in my dreams. I saw the monster. And I forgave him.
