Bullies won’t stop survivors, fighters
By Brian Toale
I spent half a year advocating for the Child Victims Act alongside a group of dedicated and courageous survivors and supporters because the law, as it now stands, prolongs the trauma of abuse by shaming, blaming and silencing survivors as they seek to be heard.
As I looked back to see where I failed in the effort, I realized I’m doing what my abuser did 46 years ago, blaming myself for being exploited. This helped me see how we were set up by men skilled in getting their way.
Gov. Cuomo’s started by including the CVA in his agenda. He was now off limits lest he abandon us. My abuser groomed me so I wouldn’t turn on him.