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COVID-19 quarantined with kids

COVID-19 quarantined with kids

COVID-19 quarantined at home with kids? Exhausted, overwhelmed, anxious? Make a plan before emotions flare. Find creative outlets for that extra energy.

How do I stop spanking?

How do I stop spanking?

What have you got to lose? April 30th is the NO SPANK CHALLENGE – one day to take a break from spanking our children. One day! That’s it.

How to prevent abuse in APRIL

How to prevent abuse in APRIL

How can you or I prevent abuse in April? How can we make a difference? We could start with just one small thing each day.

The hate you give: THUG Life

The hate you give: THUG Life

Do you know ‘The Hate U Give’? It has an important message in the acronym “THUG LIFE.” The Hate U Give Little Infants Fucks Everyone.

How to prevent self-hatred

How to prevent self-hatred

What if we could prevent our children from hating themselves, and instead foster self-love and in turn, self-care? Turns out, we can! Imagine if you will growing up with a particular set of values. Perhaps you don’t even have to imagine it; perhaps you actually did...

How can we change toxic behavior?

How can we change toxic behavior?

If you’ve seen the Gillette commercial addressing toxic masculinity [below], chances are you have an opinion about it. The ad takes a new spin on the decades-old Gillette slogan, asking “Is this the best a man can get?” while showing news clips and dramatizations of...

April 30th is NO SPANK DAY!

April 30th is NO SPANK DAY!

Spanking teaches kids lessons, but are they the lessons most parents want their kids to learn. Try giving it up spanking for just one day.

The Easter Bunny

The Easter Bunny

Is there anything wrong with telling kids about an imaginary Easter Bunny and asking them to sit in his lap? Let’s think about it.

Spanking. Give it up

Spanking. Give it up

What if, for Lent this year, we gave up spanking? Not forever, just for forty days. A fast, if you will, just to test the waters and see where a non-spanking lifestyle could take us.

Thinking Small in the New Year

Thinking Small in the New Year

Thinking small in the new year people can accomplish more of their goals with less weight on their shoulders.Thinking small in the new year memories last.

Boys will be boys

Boys will be boys

Part of the problem of sexual misconduct in men is we excuse certain behaviors from our male children by repeating a long held mantra, “boys will be boys.”

Are smart toys a smart idea?

Are smart toys a smart idea?

Some smart toys ask personal questions such as school name, parents’ names, town, and more in order to have natural conversations with children.

Back to School

Back to School

Sending your kids to school, or back to school, means understanding how to protect them from sexual abuse while in school.

Stop Bullying

Stop Bullying

Is your child being bullied; or worse, a bully? The best way to stop bullying is to lead by example. Stop acting like a bully yourself.

Georgia school paddling

Georgia school paddling

A Georgia school coercing a mother into “letting” her child be paddled in school. This is the way to create, not solve problems

Is corporal punishment the best lesson?

Is corporal punishment the best lesson?

All children need to learn a lesson through experience, but they shouldn’t go through painful corporal punishment. A lesson should shine in a positive light.

Kesha’s Rape

Kesha’s Rape

Rape will never end until we stop judging rape victims, start believing them, and stop criticizing their supporters. We can do it.

Body Shaming

Body Shaming

Six year old’s body shame. Even when they’ve been taught not to. That’s a problem, and there are things you as parents can do about that.

Preventing child sexual abuse

Preventing child sexual abuse

There are a lot of things parents can do to prevent their children from being sexually abused. They all start with understanding more about sexual abuse.

Mandated Reporters

Mandated Reporters

Reporting suspected child abuse is a good idea, and for many it’s the law. Before you check your state’s mandatory reporting laws check your morals.

Bullying and domestic violence

Bullying and domestic violence

Bullying and domestic violence: If we want children to be nice to each other, we need to watch how we treat them and how we treat each other.

The Journey of Childhood

The Journey of Childhood

Childhood milestones, not all children are the same. Allow your children to be little, and when they are big, they will know how to be.

Shame

Shame

It’s time we rethink the act of shaming our children and labeling it discipline. Teaching children to manage anger is best done by modeling it ourselves.

Breaking the cycle of abuse

Breaking the cycle of abuse

Breaking the cycle of abuse. The cornerstones of any abusive family; the secrets, the lying, the overwhelming guilt and shame.

Where is the line?

Where is the line?

Do you know the difference between spanking and child abuse? Worried you might cross the line? Then don’t spank your kids then. Problem solved!

Put down your phone!

Put down your phone!

Parents somehow manage to keep the bad habits of previous generations while adopting new ones. That’s a problem. Do you need to put down your phone?

Don’t blame the clowns for abuse

Don’t blame the clowns for abuse

“Clowns Seen in Wooded Areas Luring Children to Join Them,” an attention-getting headline, but what about the rest of the facts? Can we blame the clowns?

Happy Earth Day

Happy Earth Day

The sad reality is children’s stress levels rise when our children spend more time in front of a computer and less time outside playing.

Consent

Consent

Parents need to talk to children of both sexes about appropriate sexual consent and sexual boundaries. Sons and daughters.

How to live in peace

How to live in peace

We are bombarded by recent violence. If we want a more peaceful world, we need to teach our children to be loving, non-violent and peaceful.

Choosing a Nanny

Choosing a Nanny

Choosing a good nanny can be a huge help. Choosing a bad nanny is a huge risk. Learn how you can tell the difference between the two.

Choosing the right daycare

Choosing the right daycare

Every parent’s worst nightmare, choosing the wrong daycare and all that means. Learn what you need to know in order to keep your children safe in daycare

Honk if you hate bullies

Honk if you hate bullies

Do you resort to bullying your children? Are you sure? The real question is are we teaching our children to bully. Here’s some tips.

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