Are you pro-life or pro-birth?
Pro-life and pro-birth are not the same things. Lala lays out the difference between them and what we can do to be pro-life.
Menu for the holidays: turkey, ham, and…elephant?
Holidays for abuse survivors: it is not your job to swallow the truth elephant just to make your family feel comfortable.
Self Imposed Catch 22s – A Lasting Symptom of Narcissistic Abuse
What is Narcissistic Abuse? How can it be characterized? What is the ‘double-message double-bind” that abusers use? What can you do?
Heal your inner child by creating a place for them in your adult home
Integrate your younger-self into your adult life. An abusive upbringing can make us feel like our young-self is still in our childhood home.
Healing through the power of memoir
A memoir contains a magical ability to heal. Discover how using a memoir for healing from abuse works? How do you start?
10 signs of a toxic relationship
No relationship is perfect, be it familial, a friendship, romantic relationship, or a marriage, yet any of these can be a toxic relationship
We Need a Revised Definition of “Physical Abuse”
When people think of physical abuse they think of black eyes, busted lips, and broken arms or noses. But what if it wasn’t?
Abuse with hands, words and… bathroom scales?
Did you experience food abuse? When a parent has food available and chooses to withhold it from their child it is neglect.
How to discipline without spanking or yelling
If we’re not supposed to yell, and spanking is no longer an acceptable discipline method, then what are we supposed to do?
Gaslighting: How to recognize and survive it.
Gaslighting is abuse. It is an act of violence, be it domestic violence, workplace, or elsewhere. Know how to recognize and survive it.
Pedophiles on YouTube are symptom of a bigger problem
Pedophiles on YouTube: while parents are aghast, they don’t seem to realize that YouTube is only a symptom of a larger problem.
Maternal home visiting services prevent childhood trauma, saving lives, and money
20 years ago CDC research on childhood trauma, called ACEs, showed survivors lead shorter sicker lives. Why aren’t we preventing it?
What does it take to stop child abuse?
What does it take to stop child abuse? It takes all of us committing ourselves to stopping it. Do you know what to do? Here’s where to start.
Bill Cosby and the “look how well I turned out” defense
Bill Cosby joked about being abused as a child, and the punchline was “look how well I turned out”. That argument deserves re-examination.
Should we invest in Maternal Home Visiting programs?
Testimony in New York State calling for Maternal Home Visiting programs to be broadly available as a way of dramatically reducing abuse and neglect.
The other kind of motherless mother
Being a motherless mother is hard, the impact of a mother who has mental illness becomes clear when you become a mother yourself
Shaming our children
It’s time we rethink the act of shaming our children and labeling it discipline. Teaching children to manage anger is best done by modeling it ourselves.