Menu for the holidays: turkey, ham, and…elephant?
Holidays for abuse survivors: it is not your job to swallow the truth elephant just to make your family feel comfortable.
How you can benefit from taking the ACE Test
Take the ACE Test, benefit from getting your ACE Score and start personal discovery, and better mental, and physical health.
Self Imposed Catch 22s – A Lasting Symptom of Narcissistic Abuse
What is Narcissistic Abuse? How can it be characterized? What is the ‘double-message double-bind” that abusers use? What can you do?
Sharing the burden of pain as a community
Suffering kept silent is a heavy-weight on the soul but sharing the burden of pain with your community can be difficult if they don’t want to hear.
#Churchtoo means shut up and listen
many scandals that have rocked the Catholic church. Unfortunately, they have rocked every other denomination, faith, countless secular institutions and countless families. And the pain and tumult these scandals leave for non-offending members is massive. With that in mind, we wanted to share this piece.
Heal your inner child by creating a place for them in your adult home
Integrate your younger-self into your adult life. An abusive upbringing can make us feel like our young-self is still in our childhood home.
5 tips for friends of survivors
Your friend has just told you that they have been sexually assaulted, abused, stalked or raped and you want to support them but you’re not sure what they need. Maybe it happened to them decades ago, in childhood, or maybe it was as recent as today. You want to help your friend in any way you can. Situations may vary, but here are 5 tips for friends of survivors.
How to cope with anxiety
Having anxiety is difficult to explain to people. Sometimes, you feel like everything is falling into place, and the next, your world feels like it’s crashing down on you. Stress, feelings of neglect, worries about the future, all of these can combine into an anxiety episode or attack.
Consent matters; so does teaching it
Consent is simply about setting your own boundaries and respecting the boundaries of others. We don’t need complicated contracts or apps to ensure consent; we need a revolution within our culture itself.
Healing through the power of memoir
A memoir contains a magical ability to heal. Discover how using a memoir for healing from abuse works? How do you start?
10 signs of a toxic relationship
No relationship is perfect, be it familial, a friendship, romantic relationship, or a marriage, yet any of these can be a toxic relationship
What a rape kit is (and isn’t)
Using one of these kits, certain evidence such as DNA and debris can be collected from a crime scene — and when it comes to assault, that crime scene is the survivor’s body.Even if you never have to use one, it can be helpful to know what exactly a rape kit is, and what it isn’t.
We Need a Revised Definition of “Physical Abuse”
Physical abuse encompasses more than the current widely accepted definition. The intentional infliction of physical pain, even if there is not an accompanying injury requiring medical attention, is still physical abuse.
Abuse with hands, words and… bathroom scales?
Did you experience food abuse? When a parent has food available and chooses to withhold it from their child it is neglect.
Abuse survivors and our bodies: mistaking correlation with causation
Abuse Survivors and Our Bodies. Did you suffer child abuse? If so. you may care about yourself less because you think nobody cares about you.
Sometimes it’s just time for a new family tree
No matter how much one breaks the cycle of abuse, it can’t magically and retroactively change the leaves and branches of one’s family tree.
ACE scores in prison
The US has the largest prison population in the world and highest per-capita incarceration rate but how are we treating the high rate of ACEs in prison?
What racism and abuse have in common
Victims of racism or abuse have a lot in common. Azure Moyna shares the greatest gift you can give someone who has been abused or mistreated.
The Language of Abuse
How to lose the language of abuse and achieve the miracle of actually being able to think in the new language. Emotional language is everything.
How to Break the Cycle of Abusive Parenting
Are you a victim of abusive parenting and now a parent yourself? Wonder how you can parent without being abusive? Here are some ways you can break the cycle.
Everyone needs a co-pilot
Trusting someone with your story of abuse is a huge hurdle to overcome if you have been sexually abused. You need a sexual abuse co-pilot.
Hierarchy of abuse
Society has ranked types of abuse in a hierarchy society considers most to least bad, and even buckets abuse into legitimate and illegitimate categories.
Boy in hole review
“Boy in the Hole” by Akiva Hersh is a heart-filled story of surviving and overcoming, intergenerational trauma. It starts with the makings of a very traumatized grandmother and follows two generations of her family tree. It is a study in intergenerational trauma, in...
How to be an ally for victims of abuse
It’s important for survivors and victims of abuse to have allies. A friend when going through a rough time. Do you know how to be an ally?
Why do people blame the victim?
We hear the expression. “blaming the victim,” but do we really know what victim blaming means? Or why we blame victims?
My recovery as a sex offender
My recovery as a sex offender started when I stopped making excuses. And it started in the hostile environment of a prison.
How to recover from ACEs
It’s difficult to recover from ACEs, but it can done. This blog gives eight useful tips to recover from ACEs allowing people to go through life with ease.
Ambitious or traumatized? The connection between overwork and past trauma.
Experiencing trauma leads to all sorts of negative consequences but did you realize that it there is a strong relationship between overwork and past trauma?
Name a cockroach after your ex, feed it to meerkat on Valentine’s Day
Got a Valentine message for your ex? Name a cockroach after your ex then. El Paso zoo will feed it to one of their Meerkats for you.
Maternal home visiting services prevent childhood trauma, saving lives, and money
20 years ago CDC research on childhood trauma, called ACEs, showed survivors lead shorter sicker lives. Why aren’t we preventing it?
