Sharing the burden of pain as a community
Suffering kept silent is a heavy-weight on the soul but sharing the burden of pain with your community can be difficult if they don’t want to hear.
Strength in brokenness
The world breaks everyone and afterward, many are strong at the broken places.”— Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms. Broken doesn’t mean beyond repair.
Healing from scandal and abuse
Healing from scandal and abuse is good. But healing necessitates acknowledging the injury. You can’t heal from a wound that is never treated.
#Churchtoo means shut up and listen
many scandals that have rocked the Catholic church. Unfortunately, they have rocked every other denomination, faith, countless secular institutions and countless families. And the pain and tumult these scandals leave for non-offending members is massive. With that in mind, we wanted to share this piece.
5 tips for friends of survivors
Your friend has just told you that they have been sexually assaulted, abused, stalked or raped and you want to support them but you’re not sure what they need. Maybe it happened to them decades ago, in childhood, or maybe it was as recent as today. You want to help your friend in any way you can. Situations may vary, but here are 5 tips for friends of survivors.
How to cope with anxiety
Having anxiety is difficult to explain to people. Sometimes, you feel like everything is falling into place, and the next, your world feels like it’s crashing down on you. Stress, feelings of neglect, worries about the future, all of these can combine into an anxiety episode or attack.
9 things to know about consent
First published in Dinah’s Voice, republished with permission 9 Things to Know About Consent By Sheila Marie Connolly What exactly is consent? The word “consent” gets thrown around as if everyone understands it. But the nuances of the concept of consent can...
Consent matters; so does teaching it
Consent is simply about setting your own boundaries and respecting the boundaries of others. We don’t need complicated contracts or apps to ensure consent; we need a revolution within our culture itself.
10 signs of a toxic relationship
No relationship is perfect, be it familial, a friendship, romantic relationship, or a marriage, yet any of these can be a toxic relationship
What a rape kit is (and isn’t)
Using one of these kits, certain evidence such as DNA and debris can be collected from a crime scene — and when it comes to assault, that crime scene is the survivor’s body.Even if you never have to use one, it can be helpful to know what exactly a rape kit is, and what it isn’t.
How to Break the Cycle of Abusive Parenting
Are you a victim of abusive parenting and now a parent yourself? Wonder how you can parent without being abusive? Here are some ways you can break the cycle.
#NYCares4Moms Help for New York Moms
Baruch’s Zicklin School of Business creates campaign that promotes help for New York moms through Maternal Home Visiting Services #NYCares4Moms
What’s a shelter to do? Helping during a health crisis
For Domestic Violence victims and the shelters that protect them COVID-19 and sheltering in place brings special complications. How are they coping?
Gendered violence in the time of pandemic
Intimate partner violence and abuse are made worse by the worldwide pandemic and the restrictions everyone faces now. What is going on?
Everyone needs a co-pilot
Trusting someone with your story of abuse is a huge hurdle to overcome when you have been sexually abused as a child. It’s easier with a co-pilot.
Coercion
Harvey Weinstein didn’t pin down all his victims, in fact, some of them willingly got in their car and went to meet him. Louise Godbold explains coercion.
UC Denver’s program on gendered violence
A small group of women. A vision about how to change the world to make women safe from domestic violence. A program on gendered violence.
Reforming family court
Image by Bluehouse Skis from Pixabay How many stories have you heard about disastrous family court decisions? Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways There are too many stories about dangerous and ridiculous custody...
California Protective Parents Association
California Protective Parent Association (CPPA), creates awareness through research and education and holds court officials accountable for child safety
Safe and Together Institute
Easy to see the intersection of domestic violence and child maltreatment but ignored by judges but not the Safe and Together Institute.
Domestic violence victims need equal protection, not awareness
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Started in 1981 it is supposed to stop men from beating their wives, but the numbers are getting worse.
The facts about guns and intimate partner violence
Statistics, research, and the background about guns and Intimate Partner Violence from Rachel Graber of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
California opens three-year window for child sexual assault lawsuits
California’s new law extends the deadline for civil lawsuits going forward and opens a three-year window for claims that were barred under the old rules.
Escape, sanctuary, confusion: an update on one woman’s journey
Escaping abuse, home, friends, family and danger, means uncertainty of the future, and often the discovery and further victimization of the mother
The last time I spanked
The last time I spanked my child was the first time I did.She was not quite 3 years old. I will never forget how her eyes and her tears made me feel.
How do abusive Dads perceive their fathering?
We know what we think of abusive Dads; but what do they think? How do physically abusive men percieve themselves as dads? And why?
Gender and the law
Think gender only applies when it’s family law, abortion, domestic violence or employment? Katherine Bartlett, professor of law at Duke, doesn’t.
A mother fights for her daughter’s injustice
Maralee Maclean fights for justice for her daughter’s sexual abuse by her father. After experiencing this injustice she helps others find justice.
How to be an ally for victims of abuse
It’s important for survivors and victims of abuse to have allies. A friend when going through a rough time. Do you know how to be an ally?
Judge orders boy into father’s custody despite sexual abuse
A small boy told authorities that daddy played the “penis game” with him, the judge orders the boy into father’s custody and more sexual abuse.
