Welcome to our Custody Court Crisis blog.
What experts see as Domestic Violence cases Courts see as High Conflict cases. Most divorces, including high conflict ones, normally settle without a trial; but in some 3.8% of cases, where parents are fighting over custody and visitation of their children you’ll almost inevitably find Domestic Violence or Coercive Control. America’s Custody Courts are failing to protect the health and safety of America’s children.
These are the cases the courts get wrong; most of the time. These are the children the Safe Child Act protects.
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Costa Rica’s courts have saved a child from his father’s sexual abuse contradicting a US family court order awarding custody to the sex offender.
Family Court’s failure to recognize abuser legal tactics creates a pretend world that mimics the gaslighting tactics used by abusers.
The standard practices are not just wrong in cases involving domestic violence and child abuse; they are dangerous! What judges don’t know is hurting kids.
The worst domestic violence abusers believe their partners have no right to leave. These are cases where partners and children like Kayden are killed.
On August 6, 2018, seven-year-old Kayden Mancuso was murdered by her father. Kayden’s law would have protected her, we can still protect other kids.
US response to sexual abuse favors rapists because gendered crimes have been long denied and minimized, and men’s lives treated as more important.
California Protective Parent Association (CPPA), creates awareness through research and education and holds court officials accountable for child safety
Easy to see the intersection of domestic violence and child maltreatment but ignored by judges but not the Safe and Together Institute.
Jennifer Schlecht is one of the most recent women to be denied what should be a fundamental right. The right to leave her abuser. Jennifer’s husband like many abusers believed she did not have this right. When the courts and law enforcement do not guard this right, as...
Kayden’s father killed her to hurt her mother. He said so in a note. A judge gave him enough access to murder her. Kayden’s Law will change that.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Started in 1981 it is supposed to stop men from beating their wives, but the numbers are getting worse.
Statistics, research, and the background about guns and Intimate Partner Violence from Rachel Graber of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Escaping abuse, home, friends, family and danger, means uncertainty of the future, and often the discovery and further victimization of the mother
If you are offended by criticism of people who minimize gendered crimes like domestic violence, rape and sexual assault, you’ll not appreciate this article!
We hear the term “coercive control” but how many of us really understand what it means? How pervasive is it? Here’s one woman’s journey.
We know what we think of abusive Dads; but what do they think? How do physically abusive men percieve themselves as dads? And why?
Sexism and racism is often subtle behavior, offensive words rather than physical assaults. Until we stop these behaviours we can’t stop mass killings.
Think gender only applies when it’s family law, abortion, domestic violence or employment? Katherine Bartlett, professor of law at Duke, doesn’t.
Maralee Maclean fights for justice for her daughter’s sexual abuse by her father. After experiencing this injustice she helps others find justice.
The high conflict approach makes it possible for courts to get even the easiest cases wrong. Our children deserve an approach that is not fatally flawed.
A small boy told authorities that daddy played the “penis game” with him, the judge orders the boy into father’s custody and more sexual abuse.
El Nino Sol talks about his father’s Penis Games. We call it child sex abuse. The courts are sending him back to his father. Help us protect him.
Why don’t Custody courts have time to protect children? They focus on saving time not what’s important. They must make health and safety the first priority
She’s crazy. That seems to be the song abusers, judges, psychologists and other experts sing in divorce and custody battles as they ignore the violence.
A judge refused a protective order for Zoey Pereira aged 3. Her father burnt her alive. Ten years, and over 650 children murdered in Custody Court Crisis.
Why are judges unaware of the Custody Court Crisis when so many precious children are being harmed and even murdered. Are judges not listening?
I was supposed to testify as an expert witness to save a child from “The Penis Game” and a mother from a long prison term for trying to protect him.
Why are custody courts such a mess? What constitutional issues do they raise? Who’s to blame when courts fails to protect the best interests of children?
Gaslighting is abuse. It is an act of violence, be it domestic violence, workplace, or elsewhere. Know how to recognize and survive it.
The truths about child custody and fathers’ rights, and how we got here? How has the situation changed? Why? And where did the funding come from?
Mothers are sounding alarm about NY domestic violence laws. Far too often violent batterers are awarded child custody with potential deadly consequences.
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas through prioritising the health and safety of children in Texas’ custody courts.
Custody Court Crisis: Texas to put children’s safety and health first. Texas becomes the fifth state to introduce the Safe Child Act into legislation.
Research is important, but so is perfecting research. Especially in the areas of Intimate Partner Violence.
Mikayla is a girl who will be five-years-old forever because the court in Minnesota failed to protect her. Help her mother tell her story at the BMCC.
The court’s first duty should be a child’s health and safety but they routinely create shared parenting arrangements that put children in danger.
Got a Valentine message for your ex? Name a cockroach after your ex then. El Paso zoo will feed it to one of their Meerkats for you.
Evidence provided by Barry Goldstein to the CT hearing. Parental Alienation Syndrome is a debunked theory at the center of the Custody Court Crisis.
Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault and other traumas are rightly proud of overcoming the horrendous mistreatment they have suffered. At the same time, victims of abuse want understanding and support for the enormous harm they have suffered. Survivors are...
Family Court and the Catholic Church: Shattering the last taboos for institutions that fail our children
Secrecy and lack of accountability. Courts, and the male-dominated church, refuse to believe that a father would abuse his own child.
For children involved in contested custody cases the answer is a lot more than you think. Both stories involve domestic violence and sexual abuse.
Scotland’s Domestic Abuse bill creates an offence of “abusive behaviour. Includes psychological abuse such as coercive control.
Rural women and violence Airing Saturday, January 19, at 11 AM Pacific Time, Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways. Is there a difference between the violence women in urban areas suffer and the violence that rural...
Expert witness How bias and unreliability can affect your court case Airing Saturday, January 12, at 11 AM Pacific Time Available thereafter through the archive Anyone who watches TV, or goes through a custody battle, or knows someone who has tangled with the courts,...
Four decades after domestic violence first became a public issue our courts still don’t understand why men abuse women. That’s dangerous for children.
“Americans are dying younger, as drug overdoses and suicide kill an increasing number of people, according to a grim new set of government statistics” The GuardianLife expectancy declined in 2017, falling to 78.6 years, according to the new report from the Centers for...
Preventing domestic abuse instead of denying patient services will save health insurers hundreds of millions of dollars. Health insurance companies waste hundreds of billions of dollars for care that could easily be avoided. Recently CBS reports health insurers...
Faith Was Misplaced: Now Faith is Lost Another fatal child custody decision leads to another child suicide. Custody courts are in crisis. Children are paying the price. This child was 13 years old. Her name was Faith. Another child who could have been protected if the...
Ask Lisa Ling to set the record straight. Her dangerous show on Parental Alienation puts children's very health and safety at risk. You can read the email we sent to ask Lisa Ling to look at all the available research from the Department of Justice and the CDC, listen...
Dear Ms. Lisa Ling: Your program on CNN Nov 12, 2018 on Father’s Rights sent shivers down the spines of thousands of good, loving mothers. It was a travesty for mothers who have witnessed devastation, destruction and trauma to their children. This CNN production set...
Custody Court Crisis: Genia Shockome’s custody case should have been the easiest custody case ever. I lost my law license. Others lost their lives.
By Sarah Mervosh When Kaylee Kapatos posted on Facebook this month that she was a survivor of domestic violence, using the hashtag #WhyIStayed, the response among her friends was muted. Only the week before, she had posted about sexual assault with the hashtag...
Should a registered sex offender be granted the right to become a custodial parent? When should the rights of a biological parent be considered inferior to those of a non-parent?
Why did Kavanaugh supporters use non-probative information. Isn’t this a discredited tactic? There are women who commit sexual abuse and domestic violence, but overwhelmingly, these crimes are committed by men and boys against women and children. A specialized body of...
What do we think about women who keep their surnames after marriage? And what do we think about their husbands? The answers are both surprising and telling.
The cycle of abuse is a social cycle theory developed in 1979 by Lenore E. Walker to explain patterns of behavior in an abusive relationship. The cycle usually goes in the same order, and will repeat until the conflict is stopped, usually by the survivor...
The high cost of fighting for your child. What does protecting your child from a partner who wants to hurt you and them cost? Time, energy… and a lot of money
When we think about intimate partner violence we think about yelling and hitting. We don’t think about electronic abuse; smartphones, thermostats and Alexa.
The day scheduled for Mikayla’s first day in kindergarten instead became the day of her funeral. This avoidable tragedy occurred because her father was a dangerous abuser who knew the best way to hurt Mikayla’s mother was to kill Mikayla. Mikayla died because too...
Kayden Mancuso was killed by a man who was known to be dangerous. But since he was her father, a judge gave him the access he needed to kill her.
People shouldn’t experience domestic violence.Here are signs of domestic violence and ways people can be people be protected from it.
Research shows that child abuse and childhood exposure to domestic violence have life-long negative consequences for kids. But family court judges don’t know this, and until they do children will be harmed
California voters just recalled the judge who famously gave Brock Turner a ridiculously short sentence. This raises some real concerns among legal exerts, but leaving him on the bench would raise some real concerns among everyone.
If the United States were to provide the same financial compensation and respect to protective mothers as it provides to Gold Star military mothers, our family courts would change quickly
How did the #METOO movement start, how will it end, and what can we expect from it? Explore the benefits, possible drawbacks and the future of #METOO
98% of women in abusive relationships do not to leave due to a lack of money. Abuse does not stop there because the children are also in harm’s way.
A lot of people call or chat crisis intervention help lines but what do they really offer, who exactly uses them, and do they really help?
No one thinks of divorces as easy or fun, but ones involving domestic violence or drug use are actually traumatic, and a lot more.
Do doctors know they should screen for intimate partner violence? Do they know how to? And what should their response be if they find a victim?
What happens to kids who are taken away from a safe parent and handed to an abuser because of the Custody Court Crisis? Listen to a courageous kid’s story
When custody courts deal with allegations of abuse and parental alienation they make dangerous decisions most of the time.
Sex abuse is still a part of Dylan Farrow’s life, as is the injustice that comes with the way we deal with sex abuse. We need to listen to survivors.
Is your partner sabotaging your mental health or causing you to relapse into substance abuse? You’re not alone, but you need to understand what it means.
Choking or strangulation is shockingly common in domestic violence. What do you need to know about it? Can it be treated? How can we prevent it?
Learn about trauma, your brain on trauma, the relationship between custody courts and trauma, and what we can do about it.
It feels like we have been inundated with a variety of sex scandals that seemed to start with Harvey Weinstein. The responses vary depending on political or financial interests and ignorance about sexism and misogyny. I can understand how many people might seek to...
National Domestic Violence expert Barry Goldstein and Stop Abuse Campaign’s Andrew Willis discuss what we can do to fix the family court crisis.
Protective mothers have said for years that the flawed practices in custody courts hurt the children. Court officials have reacted defensively.
There are twelve things we can do that would make tragedies like the recent mass shooting in Texas much more rare
New York Congressman Dan Donovan adds his support to the growing list of federal legislators interested in fixing the nation’s Custody Court Crisis
An interview with the director of the upcoming documentary What Doesn’t Kill Me, about family court-ordered abuse
What Must Family Court Judges Know About Domestic Violence To Safeguard Children in Contested Cases?
Today, there is a specialized body of scientific research from highly credible sources that can be used to recognize domestic violence and child abuse and to help courts respond in ways that provide children with their best chance for a full, safe and healthy life....
Want to learn the truth about family court? Then listen to some experts on the topic share their experiences and expertise.
The story of the teenagers who watched a man drown without doing anything, A fundamental truth; children who bully usually have been victims of violence
Authorities rarely recognize the seriousness of one partner kidnapping their kids from the other. Their ignorance and apathy can have grave consequences.
Professor Meier has just released a long-awaited article describing the findings of a pilot study showing court mistreatment of protective mothers.
New DOJ research shows family courts across the US are more worried about upsetting abusive fathers than they are about protecting vulnerable children.
Losing Grace taught me how it feels when your child or grandchild is taken from you and handed to her abuser. I will never forget her face.
Texas congressman Ted Poe has introduced a congressional resolution (H.Con.Res.72) that will help protective mothers and their children
We teach kids to tell us when they’re being hurt, but we don’t listen when they tell us, if we don’t like what they say.
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
More evidence comes out showing that Johnny Depp badly abused his ex-wife, the media is still reluctant to talk about it properly and intelligently.
People focused on the “shared responsibility of the marital breakdown” the abuse was not acknowledged. In the middle a one year old child.
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
In the US and many other countries Custody Courts are taking children from safe mothers, ‘Mothers of Lost Children,’ and giving custody to dangerous abusers
I want a divorce. These four words would forever change my life. I blurted them out without even hesitating as I sat in the car.
Most perpetrators of mass shootings are also perpetrators of domestic violence. This needs to guide legislators as they develop domestic violence laws.
When judges ignore research and best practices regarding domestic violence and child abuse, they endanger children
Are you worried your child may be kidnapped? Discover the facts behind missing children and the scary stories that we hear. How do you protect your child?
Custody courts, like doctors, should commit to do no harm. Courts should not hurt children; but there is overwhelming evidence they often do.
Two sisters run away from the father they allege is abusing them. A custody court judge forced them to go back and live with their father.
Family court has given rise to some of the worst judges imaginable.
Our current family and custody courts are like relying on a general practitioner to treat cancer. We would never expect life and death decisions to be made by people without specialized knowledge in the field of medicine, so why here?
The Haskell murder, in which a man killed his entire family except for one girl who could flee and call the police, is all the more tragic because we know how to prevent it.
Major media publications are picking starting to report on the nation’s Family Court crisis. Now what?
Custody Court Crisis murders. Experts know that batterers use children to further abuse their partners, and that abusers sometimes kill their children.
Domestic violence homicides follow a familiar pattern. As DV is not caused by mental illness or poverty so we see DV homicides in all types of areas.
A child running away from home is at best a cry for help and at worst a desperate act to protect themselves from abuse. So why do we punish kids for it?
Domestic violence is not caused by mental illness, and when high-profile politician, like Sarah Palin, says otherwise it hurts victims.
Connecticut established a task force to study minors exposed to domestic violence. Better idea, let’s stop domestic violence.
Judge Gorcyca sent a 9, 10 and 13 year old to juvenile detention after they refused to meet their father. A lesson in the ‘success’ of forced reunification.
We know how to prevent domestic violence. And a major part of it is to make family courts safe for victims.
Family court systematically destroys good mothers who are battered by their partners or protecting abused children by placing the children in the hands of the abuser
New research from the DOJ found the courts give more importance to discredited alienation theory than domestic violence or child abuse,
The research proves that estrangement from an abusive parent is better for children than being abused. Family courts tend to get that wrong, which is why kids tend to get hurt.
Here’s what we said in our letter to the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges about custody court reform.
Bullying and domestic violence: If we want children to be nice to each other, we need to watch how we treat them and how we treat each other.
When judges are doing everything as they’re supposed to, they still harm kids. That’s a problem, but there are solutions. Why aren’t we using them?
America’s life expectancy is actually decreasing, and focusing on ACE prevention may fix that
Shared parenting is promoted as the ideal situation for divorced parents, under the right conditions it might be, but it is an abuser’s best friend.
A review of Maralee McLean’s book “Prosecuted but not Silenced” that illustrates how America’s family courts typically harm children and good mothers
Little Kelly Williams was only in York County where she was killed by her father in as part of a shared custody program between Lane and Kelly’s father, Frankie.
Our broken custody courts must put the health and safety of children first in any custody or visitation decision. The Safe Child Act will make sure they do.
The Safe Child Act has the potential to improve our broken family court system in dramatic ways.
Protective mothers are angry that custody courts often place their children in danger. 10 routine custody court practices place children at risk.
Judges who believe that Parental Alienation Syndrome is a serious issue that harms children are not looking at the research.
I had hopes that a quick divorce would mean working together raising our kids.Nine years, $100,000, and so many hours in court, and I still lost custody.
Mass shootings and domestic violence are both common and connected. So bills to disarm domestic abusers make us all safer.
Man who murdered Prince McLeod Rams was convicted, but the courts that gave him access to his son despite a history of domestic violence, remain unchanged.
The substantial costs associated with Aaden Moreno’s murder are shouldered by taxpayers. But all that expense, plus the murder, could have been prevented
Solutions to Family Courts’ horrific disregard to women’s and children’s welfare
A tragic shooting in San Bernardino was a preventable domestic violence homicide. Why didn’t we use the Quincy Solution to prevent domestic violence?
Safe parenting takes a back seat for abuse victims on the front line. Forced into dangerous shared parenting by courts who minimize abuse of women and kids.
Disbelieving women and children happen in rape cases. Courts rather hear the truth from the abuser. Disbelieving women and children result in false reports
Why didn’t I leave? I write this is story about how I got into, and then out of, years of domestic violence hell in the hope that it helps others.
Family courts consistently protect sex offenders, endanger children and punish protective parents
Bresha Meadows is a 14-year-old-girl whose mother couldn’t get a protective order because of the custody court crisis. Then she murdered her abusive father.
Family courts must be better trained in domestic violence Frequent and substantial complaints that custody courts use deeply flawed practices that put children in danger came from protective mothers. Court officials dismissed their concerns as coming from “disgruntled...
The media say Bill O’Reilly lost his custody case; but did he? O’Reilly maintains shared parenting that abusers use to maintain control over their victims.
How could Bill Cosby rape more than 50 women over a number of decades while maintaining his success and popularity?
Like one quarter of American women, I was in a mom in an abusive relationship. When I realized he was abusing my kids I left, and raised my children myself.
Men convicted of rape who impregnate their victims have parental rights over the babies born from their crimes. But what about the impact on the child?
3 innocent children sent to jail, compared to Charles Manson and sent for reunification treatment that has been described by some victims as threat therapy
Kelly Rutherford was involved in an all too common custody case. The circumstances would suggest the court had an easy decision; maintain custody with the mother. But the court instead reached a decision that defies logic and clearly places the children in jeopardy. ...
A Narcissist may emotionally abuse those in their daily family lives. This emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence that impacts children.