Welcome to our Family Court Custody Crisis blog.
What experts see as Domestic Violence cases Courts treat as High Conflict cases. Most divorces typically settle without a trial, but in some 3.8% of cases, where parents are fighting over custody and visitation of their children, you’ll almost inevitably find Domestic Violence or Coercive Control.
America’s Custody Courts are failing to protect America’s children’s health and safety because they are not considering crucial scientific research and often relying on the wrong experts.
These are the cases the courts get wrong; most of the time. These are the children the Safe Child Act protects.
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Don’t confuse Domestic Violence with “He-said-she-said”
Family Court uses the ACE Study to protect a child
Who are the Domestic Violence Experts?
The best interests of the child
Believe Victims if We Want to End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Don’t confuse Domestic Violence with “He-said-she-said”
Judges, lawyers, and evaluators often minimize domestic violence (DV) by referring to the dispute as “he-said-she-said.” They’re wrong.
Family Court uses the ACE Study to protect a child
Family Court Judge trained in ACE Study Research makes contested custody decision saving a child from an abusive father.
Who are the Domestic Violence Experts?
The 2012 Saunders Study found that Domestic Violence Experts would benefit the family courts. Little has changed since.
The best interests of the child
What is in the best interests of the child? Family Courts make these decisions all the time. How are they doing with children’s lives?
Believe Victims if We Want to End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Ft. Hood is the latest scandal where victims of sexual mistreatment and DV were retraumatized by people supposed to protect them.
The Science Behind Coercive Control and Adverse Outcomes During Pregnancy
In a two-part series with the ACECC Journal, we will discuss prenatal non-physical abuse and the long-term effects on children.
Early warning signs of Domestic Violence
Are there early warning signs of domestic violence? What early signs tell the difference between charisma and real character?
How the Family Court’s purpose to protect children became inverted
How three decades of history are driving family courts throughout the West to make consistently irrational and dangerous decisions.
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime and we treat it as such. Some people, mostly men, disagree with our approach. Here is our response.
Who are the Protective Mothers?
Protective mothers are simply normal and caring mothers who love their children and will do whatever is necessary to protect them.
Crisis in the Family Courts
58,000 children a year are sent for custody or unprotected visitation with dangerous abusers. In 10 years, over 750 were murdered
The Health and Safety of Children
Naysayers fail to understand how requiring the health and safety of children as first priority fundamentally changes the courts’ response.
Life and death in the Family Courts
Family Courts are tilted to favor abusers and harm children. Custody courts are mishandling 95% of abuse cases.
Changing our lives
Mickey Mantle told his fans, “Don’t be like me.”, hoping to change their lives away from the mistakes that were about to cost him his.
Why don’t family courts fix dangerous practices?
The research makes it clear that Family Courts get most domestic violence custody cases wrong and often dangerously wrong. This article explains what may cause courts to tilt in favor of abusive fathers and away from protecting children. We know judges don’t want to hurt children, so why haven’t courts found a way to review their outdated practices and create reforms that focus on keeping children safe and healthy?
How to select a judicial candidate
How do you select a judicial candidate to vote for? Make sure the family court judge you vote for is qualified. Read this article before voting.
Recovering from coronavirus crisis
As we recover from Coronavirus the Quincy Solution will help the economy, reduce domestic violence, and protect children in our family courts #custody
Coronavirus hero abused by family court
Court professionals, unqualified to recognize and respond to domestic violence, instead joined in abusing one of our Coronavirus heroes.
Believing Sexual Abuse Survivors
Sexual abuse reports. Who should we believe? Trump, Kavanaugh, and Biden are they all the same or is there a difference? An expert’s view.
What’s a shelter to do? Helping during a health crisis
For Domestic Violence victims and the shelters that protect them COVID-19 and sheltering in place brings special complications. How are they coping?
Listen to the scientists
Good advice for everyone responding to Coronavirus and good advice for family court judges responding to domestic violence and child abuse
How Goats Became the Mascots for Protective Mothers
At a time we can use a laugh or a chuckle an explanation of how goats became the mascots of the Protective Mothers Movement
What Would Safe Family Courts Look Like?
Imagine what it would look like if family court administrators updated their practices and made the courts safe for children.
Coronavirus in a domestic violence world
What about the victims of domestic violence who because of coronavirus or COVID19 are sheltering in place with their abuser? And what about their children?
Confirmed: Custody Courts fail children
More than 700 dead children show how America’s custody courts are failing children. Leading custody expert Barry Goldstein’s article shows why.
Why do Family Courts repeat their mistakes?
Family courts repeat their mistakes causing 700 children to lose their lives over 10 years. Barry Goldstein shows product recalls protect children better.
Reforming family court
Image by Bluehouse Skis from Pixabay How many stories have you heard about disastrous family court decisions? Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways There are too many stories about dangerous and ridiculous custody...
Costa Rica saves child US gave to sex offender
Costa Rica’s courts have saved a child from his father’s sexual abuse contradicting a US family court order awarding custody to the sex offender.
Gaslighting by the courts
Family Court’s failure to recognize abuser legal tactics creates a pretend world that mimics the gaslighting tactics used by abusers.
What judges don’t know hurts children
The standard practices are not just wrong in cases involving domestic violence and child abuse; they are dangerous! What judges don’t know is hurting kids.
Who are the worst domestic violence abusers?
The worst domestic violence abusers believe their partners have no right to leave. These are cases where partners and children like Kayden are killed.
Will you protect Pennsylvania’s children from murder?
On August 6, 2018, seven-year-old Kayden Mancuso was murdered by her father. Kayden’s law would have protected her, we can still protect other kids.
US Response to sexual abuse favors rapists
US response to sexual abuse favors rapists because gendered crimes have been long denied and minimized, and men’s lives treated as more important.
California Protective Parents Association
California Protective Parent Association (CPPA), creates awareness through research and education and holds court officials accountable for child safety
Safe and Together Institute
Easy to see the intersection of domestic violence and child maltreatment but ignored by judges but not the Safe and Together Institute.
Do women have a right to leave their abusers?
Jennifer Schlecht is one of the most recent women to be denied what should be a fundamental right. The right to leave her abuser. Jennifer’s husband like many abusers believed she did not have this right. When the courts and law enforcement do not guard this right, as...
Why Pennsylvania must pass Kayden’s Law now
Kayden’s father killed her to hurt her mother. He said so in a note. A judge gave him enough access to murder her. Kayden’s Law will change that.
Domestic violence victims need equal protection, not awareness
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Started in 1981 it is supposed to stop men from beating their wives, but the numbers are getting worse.
The facts about guns and intimate partner violence
Statistics, research, and the background about guns and Intimate Partner Violence from Rachel Graber of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Escape, sanctuary, confusion: an update on one woman’s journey
Escaping abuse, home, friends, family and danger, means uncertainty of the future, and often the discovery and further victimization of the mother
Domestic violence, rape and sexual assault
If you are offended by criticism of people who minimize gendered crimes like domestic violence, rape and sexual assault, you’ll not appreciate this article!
How do abusive Dads perceive their fathering?
We know what we think of abusive Dads; but what do they think? How do physically abusive men percieve themselves as dads? And why?
Misogyny and bigotry are behind the killers
Sexism and racism is often subtle behavior, offensive words rather than physical assaults. Until we stop these behaviours we can’t stop mass killings.
Gender and the law
Think gender only applies when it’s family law, abortion, domestic violence or employment? Katherine Bartlett, professor of law at Duke, doesn’t.
A mother fights for her daughter’s injustice
Maralee Maclean fights for justice for her daughter’s sexual abuse by her father. After experiencing this injustice she helps others find justice.
Why the High Conflict approach to contested custody cases is fatally flawed
The high conflict approach makes it possible for courts to get even the easiest cases wrong. Our children deserve an approach that is not fatally flawed.
Judge orders boy into father’s custody despite sexual abuse
A small boy told authorities that daddy played the “penis game” with him, the judge orders the boy into father’s custody and more sexual abuse.
This boy deserves protection not sexual abuse.
El Nino Sol talks about his father’s Penis Games. We call it child sex abuse. The courts are sending him back to his father. Help us protect him.
Why don’t Custody courts have time to protect children?
Why don’t Custody courts have time to protect children? They focus on saving time not what’s important. They must make health and safety the first priority
Say she’s crazy and watch the courts ignore violence against her
She’s crazy. That seems to be the song abusers, judges, psychologists and other experts sing in divorce and custody battles as they ignore the violence.
Go to jail or let your child be murdered
A judge refused a protective order for Zoey Pereira aged 3. Her father burnt her alive. Ten years, and over 650 children murdered in Custody Court Crisis.
Why are judges unaware of custody court crisis?
Why are judges unaware of the Custody Court Crisis when so many precious children are being harmed and even murdered. Are judges not listening?
Custody Court Crisis: Save my son from his father’s sexual abuse
I was supposed to testify as an expert witness to save a child from “The Penis Game” and a mother from a long prison term for trying to protect him.
Custody Court Crisis: Family court from a supreme court candidate’s view
Why are custody courts such a mess? What constitutional issues do they raise? Who’s to blame when courts fails to protect the best interests of children?
Gaslighting: How to recognize and survive it.
Gaslighting is abuse. It is an act of violence, be it domestic violence, workplace, or elsewhere. Know how to recognize and survive it.
Custody Court Crisis: The truths about custody and fathers rights
The truths about child custody and fathers’ rights, and how we got here? How has the situation changed? Why? And where did the funding come from?
No Way Out: A months-long investigation into New York’s domestic violence laws
Mothers are sounding alarm about NY domestic violence laws. Far too often violent batterers are awarded child custody with potential deadly consequences.
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas through prioritising the health and safety of children in Texas’ custody courts.
Custody Court Crisis: Texas to put children’s safety and health first
Custody Court Crisis: Texas to put children’s safety and health first. Texas becomes the fifth state to introduce the Safe Child Act into legislation.
Research, geography, and intimate partner violence
Research is important, but so is perfecting research. Especially in the areas of Intimate Partner Violence.
Mikayla was murdered. Please help her mother protect other children
Mikayla is a girl who will be five-years-old forever because the court in Minnesota failed to protect her. Help her mother tell her story at the BMCC.
Custody Court Crisis: How many deaths are caused by Shared Parenting versus Safe Parenting?
The court’s first duty should be a child’s health and safety but they routinely create shared parenting arrangements that put children in danger.
Name a cockroach after your ex, feed it to meerkat on Valentine’s Day
Got a Valentine message for your ex? Name a cockroach after your ex then. El Paso zoo will feed it to one of their Meerkats for you.
Connecticut Legislative Hearing Concerning Parental Alienation Syndrome and Shared Parenting
Evidence provided by Barry Goldstein to the CT hearing. Parental Alienation Syndrome is a debunked theory at the center of the Custody Court Crisis.
How to appreciate survivors of abuse, while supporting it’s victims
Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault and other traumas are rightly proud of overcoming the horrendous mistreatment they have suffered. At the same time, victims of abuse want understanding and support for the enormous harm they have suffered. Survivors are...
Family Court and the Catholic Church: Shattering the last taboos for institutions that fail our children
Secrecy and lack of accountability. Courts, and the male-dominated church, refuse to believe that a father would abuse his own child.
What have John Bobbitt’s penis and too many children of divorce got in common?
For children involved in contested custody cases the answer is a lot more than you think. Both stories involve domestic violence and sexual abuse.
Judges to undergo psychological domestic abuse training
Scotland’s Domestic Abuse bill creates an offence of “abusive behaviour. Includes psychological abuse such as coercive control.
Rural women and violence
Rural women and violence Airing Saturday, January 19, at 11 AM Pacific Time, Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways. Is there a difference between the violence women in urban areas suffer and the violence that rural...
Expert witnesses: How bias and unreliability can affect your court case
Expert witness How bias and unreliability can affect your court case Airing Saturday, January 12, at 11 AM Pacific Time Available thereafter through the archive Anyone who watches TV, or goes through a custody battle, or knows someone who has tangled with the courts,...
Why men abuse women and what makes them stop
Four decades after domestic violence first became a public issue our courts still don’t understand why men abuse women. That’s dangerous for children.
Will the #MeToo movement increase America’s life expectancy?
“Americans are dying younger, as drug overdoses and suicide kill an increasing number of people, according to a grim new set of government statistics” The GuardianLife expectancy declined in 2017, falling to 78.6 years, according to the new report from the Centers for...
How insurance companies can cut costs by stopping domestic violence
Preventing domestic abuse instead of denying patient services will save health insurers hundreds of millions of dollars. Health insurance companies waste hundreds of billions of dollars for care that could easily be avoided. Recently CBS reports health insurers...
Suicide after fatal child custody decision
Faith Was Misplaced: Now Faith is Lost Another fatal child custody decision leads to another child suicide. Custody courts are in crisis. Children are paying the price. This child was 13 years old. Her name was Faith. Another child who could have been protected if the...
Ask Lisa Ling to protect children in custody court cases
Ask Lisa Ling to set the record straight. Her dangerous show on Parental Alienation puts children's very health and safety at risk. You can read the email we sent to ask Lisa Ling to look at all the available research from the Department of Justice and the CDC, listen...
Lisa Ling Your one-sided show on child custody put children at risk
Dear Ms. Lisa Ling: Your program on CNN Nov 12, 2018 on Father’s Rights sent shivers down the spines of thousands of good, loving mothers. It was a travesty for mothers who have witnessed devastation, destruction and trauma to their children. This CNN production set...
I Lost My Law License Others Lost Their Lives
Custody Court Crisis: Genia Shockome’s custody case should have been the easiest custody case ever. I lost my law license. Others lost their lives.
Domestic Violence Awareness Hasn’t Caught Up With #MeToo. Here’s Why.
By Sarah Mervosh When Kaylee Kapatos posted on Facebook this month that she was a survivor of domestic violence, using the hashtag #WhyIStayed, the response among her friends was muted. Only the week before, she had posted about sexual assault with the hashtag...
Court agreement allows registered sex offender dad unsupervised visitation rights
Should a registered sex offender be granted the right to become a custodial parent? When should the rights of a biological parent be considered inferior to those of a non-parent?
Non-Probative Information: The Tactic of Abusers
Why did Kavanaugh supporters use non-probative information. Isn’t this a discredited tactic? There are women who commit sexual abuse and domestic violence, but overwhelmingly, these crimes are committed by men and boys against women and children. A specialized body of...
What’s in a name? Especially when it’s hers?
What do we think about women who keep their surnames after marriage? And what do we think about their husbands? The answers are both surprising and telling.
Redefining The Cycle Of Abuse
The cycle of abuse is a social cycle theory developed in 1979 by Lenore E. Walker to explain patterns of behavior in an abusive relationship. The cycle usually goes in the same order, and will repeat until the conflict is stopped, usually by the survivor...
The high cost of fighting for your child
The high cost of fighting for your child. What does protecting your child from a partner who wants to hurt you and them cost? Time, energy… and a lot of money
Electronic abuse and intimate partner violence
When we think about intimate partner violence we think about yelling and hitting. We don’t think about electronic abuse; smartphones, thermostats and Alexa.
Her First Day In Kindergarten Became The Day Of Her Funeral
The day scheduled for Mikayla’s first day in kindergarten instead became the day of her funeral. This avoidable tragedy occurred because her father was a dangerous abuser who knew the best way to hurt Mikayla’s mother was to kill Mikayla. Mikayla died because too...
Kayden Mancuso Should Be Alive and Well
Kayden Mancuso was killed by a man who was known to be dangerous. But since he was her father, a judge gave him the access he needed to kill her.
Domestic violence signs and ways to protect someone
People shouldn’t experience domestic violence.Here are signs of domestic violence and ways people can be people be protected from it.
Warning to Judges, Evaluators, Caseworkers and Legislators
Research shows that child abuse and childhood exposure to domestic violence have life-long negative consequences for kids. But family court judges don’t know this, and until they do children will be harmed
Lenient judge in stanford rape case removed from office
California voters just recalled the judge who famously gave Brock Turner a ridiculously short sentence. This raises some real concerns among legal exerts, but leaving him on the bench would raise some real concerns among everyone.
Gold Star Protective Mothers
If the United States were to provide the same financial compensation and respect to protective mothers as it provides to Gold Star military mothers, our family courts would change quickly
#METOO: Where’s it going, what’s it from?
How did the #METOO movement start, how will it end, and what can we expect from it? Explore the benefits, possible drawbacks and the future of #METOO
Life after abuse. A guide to financial planning to secure your future
98% of women in abusive relationships do not to leave due to a lack of money. Abuse does not stop there because the children are also in harm’s way.
Crisis hotlines: who, what, and why?
A lot of people call or chat crisis intervention help lines but what do they really offer, who exactly uses them, and do they really help?
Traumatic Divorce
No one thinks of divorces as easy or fun, but ones involving domestic violence or drug use are actually traumatic, and a lot more.
Family Court is Broken. But there’s a wrong way to fix it. Shared parenting.
Everyone agrees that our family courts are broken. But one of the popular proposed remedies will endanger children.
Healthcare response to intimate partner violence
Do doctors know they should screen for intimate partner violence? Do they know how to? And what should their response be if they find a victim?
Custody Court Crisis: Courageous kids taken away from safe parents by courts
What happens to kids who are taken away from a safe parent and handed to an abuser because of the Custody Court Crisis? Listen to a courageous kid’s story
How family courts treat abuse and accusations of alienation
When custody courts deal with allegations of abuse and parental alienation they make dangerous decisions most of the time.
The Voice of Dylan Farrow
Sex abuse is still a part of Dylan Farrow’s life, as is the injustice that comes with the way we deal with sex abuse. We need to listen to survivors.
Domestic violence, mental health, and substance abuse
Is your partner sabotaging your mental health or causing you to relapse into substance abuse? You’re not alone, but you need to understand what it means.
Choking. Strangulation. Whatever you call it, it happens way too often
Choking or strangulation is shockingly common in domestic violence. What do you need to know about it? Can it be treated? How can we prevent it?
Custody Court Crisis: Trauma, the brain, the courts, and the problems
Learn about trauma, your brain on trauma, the relationship between custody courts and trauma, and what we can do about it.
The Next Sex Scandals Will be Even Worse: We Must Protect Our Children
It feels like we have been inundated with a variety of sex scandals that seemed to start with Harvey Weinstein. The responses vary depending on political or financial interests and ignorance about sexism and misogyny. I can understand how many people might seek to...
Learn about fixing the family court crisis
National Domestic Violence expert Barry Goldstein and Stop Abuse Campaign’s Andrew Willis discuss what we can do to fix the family court crisis.
Custody Court Crisis: Courts hurt children
Protective mothers have said for years that the flawed practices in custody courts hurt the children. Court officials have reacted defensively.
Rules Children Can Live With: Children shouldn’t risk their lives to attend church.
There are twelve things we can do that would make tragedies like the recent mass shooting in Texas much more rare
Congressman Dan Donovan to support Federal Resolution H. Con. 72
New York Congressman Dan Donovan adds his support to the growing list of federal legislators interested in fixing the nation’s Custody Court Crisis
What Doesn’t Kill Me: A Film Expose on Domestic Violence and Court Revictimization
An interview with the director of the upcoming documentary What Doesn’t Kill Me, about family court-ordered abuse
What Must Family Court Judges Know About Domestic Violence and child abuse
Courts can now access scientific research from highly credible sources that can be used to recognize domestic violence and child abuse.
What’s going on in our family courts?
Want to learn the truth about family court? Then listen to some experts on the topic share their experiences and expertise.
Children who bully usually victims of violence
The story of the teenagers who watched a man drown without doing anything, A fundamental truth; children who bully usually have been victims of violence
Most kidnapped children are taken by a parent. That doesn’t mean they’re safe.
Authorities rarely recognize the seriousness of one partner kidnapping their kids from the other. Their ignorance and apathy can have grave consequences.
Widely anticipated article confirms court mistreatment of protective mothers
Professor Meier has just released a long-awaited article describing the findings of a pilot study showing court mistreatment of protective mothers.
Custody court crisis: Courts decisions proved dangerous by Meier Study
New DOJ research shows family courts across the US are more worried about upsetting abusive fathers than they are about protecting vulnerable children.
Grace’s story. Losing Grace
Losing Grace taught me how it feels when your child or grandchild is taken from you and handed to her abuser. I will never forget her face.
Congressional Resolution to reform custody courts
Texas congressman Ted Poe has introduced a congressional resolution (H.Con.Res.72) that will help protective mothers and their children
Why Aren’t We Listening?
We teach kids to tell us when they’re being hurt, but we don’t listen when they tell us, if we don’t like what they say.
Do Not Suffer In Silence #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
Media Mishandles Johnny Depp Abuse Story
More evidence comes out showing that Johnny Depp badly abused his ex-wife, the media is still reluctant to talk about it properly and intelligently.
He never hit me
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
The Heroic Mothers of Lost Children
In the US and many other countries Custody Courts are taking children from safe mothers, ‘Mothers of Lost Children,’ and giving custody to dangerous abusers
I want a divorce
I want a divorce. These four words would forever change my life. I blurted them out without even hesitating as I sat in the car.
Still another mass shooting by domestic violence perpetrator
Most perpetrators of mass shootings are also perpetrators of domestic violence. This needs to guide legislators as they develop domestic violence laws.
Responding To Domestic Violence Custody Cases: What Judges Must Know
When judges ignore research and best practices regarding domestic violence and child abuse, they endanger children
The facts behind missing children like Krystal Alvarez
Discover the facts behind missing children and the scary stories that we hear. How do you protect your child?
When custody courts hurt children
Custody courts, like doctors, should commit to do no harm. Courts should not hurt children; but there is overwhelming evidence they often do.
Court Forces Young Wolferts Sisters Back to Allegedly Abusive Father
Two sisters run away from the father they allege is abusing them. A custody court judge forced them to go back and live with their father.
Worst. Judges. Ever.
Family court has given rise to some of the worst judges imaginable.
“General Practitioners” for Domestic Violence Cases
Custody courts are to Domestic Violence what General Practitioners are to cancer. Informed but not experts. They miss true reports of abuse.
Quincy Solution to Haskell Murder
The Haskell murder, in which a man killed his entire family except for one girl who could flee and call the police, is all the more tragic because we know how to prevent it.
Custody Court Crisis exposed
Major media publications are picking starting to report on the nation’s Family Court crisis. Now what?
Custody Court Crisis: Another child. Another Mother. Another Tragedy
Custody Court Crisis murders. Experts know that batterers use children to further abuse their partners, and that abusers sometimes kill their children.
Scarsdale Homicide Follows Familiar Pattern
Domestic violence homicides follow a familiar pattern. As DV is not caused by mental illness or poverty so we see DV homicides in all types of areas.
Running away from home and then returned to their abuser
A child running away from home is at best a cry for help and at worst a desperate act to protect themselves from abuse. So why do we punish kids for it?
Sarah Palin and the Abuse Excuse
Domestic violence is not caused by mental illness, and when high-profile politician, like Sarah Palin, says otherwise it hurts victims.
Connecticut Task Force Concerning Minors Exposed to Domestic Violence
Connecticut established a task force to study minors exposed to domestic violence. Better idea, let’s stop domestic violence.
What Judge Gorcyca taught us about the “success” of forced reunification
Judge Gorcyca sent a 9, 10 and 13 year old to juvenile detention after they refused to meet their father. A lesson in the ‘success’ of forced reunification.
How Do We Stop Domestic Violence?
How do we stop domestic violence? Read Barry Goldstein’s recently released new book: Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody Vol. II.
How Mothers are Destroyed…
Family court systematically destroys good mothers who are battered by their partners or protecting abused children by placing the children in the hands of the abuser
How Can Courts Give More Influence to a Pro Pedophile Theory than Scientific Research?
New research from the DOJ found the courts give more importance to discredited alienation theory than domestic violence or child abuse,
When a Parent Does More Harm than Good
The research proves that estrangement from an abusive parent is better for children than being abused. Family courts tend to get that wrong, which is why kids tend to get hurt.
What would you tell family court officials?
Here’s what we said in our letter to the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges about custody court reform.
Bullying and domestic violence
Bullying and domestic violence: If we want children to be nice to each other, we need to watch how we treat them and how we treat each other.
Risky practices baked into Family Court procedures
When judges are doing everything as they’re supposed to, they still harm kids. That’s a problem, but there are solutions. Why aren’t we using them?
Practical Solution To Reduction In Life Expectancy
America’s life expectancy is actually decreasing, and focusing on ACE prevention may fix that
Shared parenting. What does it have to do with Domestic Violence?
Shared parenting is promoted as the ideal situation for divorced parents, under the right conditions it might be, but it is an abuser’s best friend.
Prosecuted But Not Silenced. Book Review
A review of Maralee McLean’s book “Prosecuted but not Silenced” that illustrates how America’s family courts typically harm children and good mothers
Three-year-old slain in York County murder-suicide wasn’t supposed to be there
Little Kelly Williams was only in York County where she was killed by her father in as part of a shared custody program between Lane and Kelly’s father, Frankie.
The Safe Child Act. Protecting children in custody court
Our broken custody courts must put the health and safety of children first in any custody or visitation decision. The Safe Child Act will make sure they do.
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The Safe Child Act. Protecting children in custody court [2]
The Safe Child Act has the potential to improve our broken family court system in dramatic ways.
Custody Court Crisis: 10 routine court practices put children at risk
Protective mothers are angry that custody courts often place their children in danger. 10 routine custody court practices place children at risk.
Parental Alienation Syndrome for Good Judges
Judges who believe that Parental Alienation Syndrome is a serious issue that harms children are not looking at the research.
Custody Court Crisis: 9 years and counting
I had hopes that a quick divorce would mean working together raising our kids.Nine years, $100,000, and so many hours in court, and I still lost custody.
Domestic Violence and Mass Shootings
Mass shootings and domestic violence are both common and connected. So bills to disarm domestic abusers make us all safer.
Court Gave Joaquin Rams Access to Kill Fifteen-Month-Old Prince McLeod Rams
The man who murdered Prince McLeod Rams was convicted of domestic violence but the courts gave him access to his son.
Custody Court Crisis. Who pays for the murder of Aaden Moreno?
Taxpayers meet the substantial costs of Aaden Moreno’s murder. But the expense and the murder could have been prevented.
The Painful Cost of Disbelieving Women- Part 3
Rape, child abuse, and domestic violence have a huge economic cost to communities that could be saved if we just believed women.
Homicide in an elementary school. Domestic violence not a private matter
A tragic shooting in San Bernardino was a preventable domestic violence homicide. Why didn’t we use the Quincy Solution to prevent domestic violence?
A tale of survival from a victim on the front line
Safe parenting takes a back seat when you are forced into dangerous shared parenting by courts who minimize abuse of women and kids.
The painful cost of disbelieving women part 2
Women and children are often disbelieved in rape cases. Courts hear their truth from abusers. Women and children rarely make false reports.
How I Got In, and How I Got Out
Why didn’t I leave? I write this is story about how I got into, and then out of, years of domestic violence hell in the hope that it helps others.
Custody in Crisis: How Family Courts Nationwide Put Children in Danger
Family courts consistently protect sex offenders, endanger children and punish protective parents
Custody Court Crisis. Why must a 14 year old fight her abuser alone?
Bresha Meadows is a 14-year-old-girl whose mother couldn’t get a protective order because of the custody court crisis. Then she murdered her abusive father.
What is the Saunders Study?
The Saunders Study says Family courts must be better trained in domestic violence Frequent and substantial complaints that custody courts use deeply flawed practices that put children in danger came from protective mothers. Court officials dismissed their concerns as...
Bill O’Reilly Loses Custody Case, Keeps Control
The media say Bill O’Reilly lost his custody case; but did he? O’Reilly maintains shared parenting that abusers use to maintain control over their victims.
Bill Cosby’s War on Women
How could Bill Cosby rape more than 50 women over a number of decades while maintaining his success and popularity?
One Mom’s Story
Like one quarter of American women, I was in a mom in an abusive relationship. When I realized he was abusing my kids I left, and raised my children myself.
Massachusetts appeals court rules convicted rapists have parental rights over babies born from rape
Men convicted of rape who impregnate their victims have parental rights over the babies born from their crimes. But what about the impact on the child?
Custody Court Crisis: Michigan Court’s Tsimhoni case requires evidence based reforms
3 innocent children sent to jail, compared to Charles Manson and sent for reunification treatment that has been described by some victims as threat therapy
Kelly Rutherford’s Children Lose Custody Case
Kelly Rutherford was involved in an all too common custody case. The circumstances would suggest the court had an easy decision; maintain custody with the mother. But the court instead reached a decision that defies logic and clearly places the children in jeopardy. ...
Divorcing a narcissist: advice from the battlefield
A Narcissist may emotionally abuse those in their daily family lives. This emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence that impacts children.
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