Welcome to our Family Court Custody Crisis blog.
What experts see as Domestic Violence cases Courts treat as High Conflict cases. Most divorces typically settle without a trial, but in some 3.8% of cases, where parents are fighting over custody and visitation of their children, you’ll almost inevitably find Domestic Violence or Coercive Control.
America’s Custody Courts are failing to protect America’s children’s health and safety because they are not considering crucial scientific research and often relying on the wrong experts.
These are the cases the courts get wrong; most of the time. These are the children the Safe Child Act protects.
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Survivor Story: Hammered Down
Kayden’s Law Provision of VAWA Fuels Family Court Reform
Why did Hank Aaron die now?
Family Court uses the ACE Study to protect a child
Believe Victims if We Want to End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Survivor Story: Hammered Down
TRIGGER WARNING: Brave DV survivor tells her story. It starts with a father who hit her mother with a sledgehammer, but it doesn’t end there.
Kayden’s Law Provision of VAWA Fuels Family Court Reform
Thanks to countless advocates, family court reform is being reinforced! What does Kayden’s Law Provision of VAWA mean for protective parents?
Why did Hank Aaron die now?
Hank Aaron died of natural causes when he was 86-years-old. A long life, longer than average life expectancy, but could he have lived longer?
Family Court uses the ACE Study to protect a child
Family Court Judge trained in ACE Study Research makes contested custody decision saving a child from an abusive father.
Believe Victims if We Want to End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Ft. Hood is the latest scandal where victims of sexual mistreatment and DV were retraumatized by people supposed to protect them.
The Science Behind Coercive Control and Adverse Outcomes During Pregnancy
In a two-part series with the ACECC Journal, we will discuss prenatal non-physical abuse and the long-term effects on children.
Early warning signs of Domestic Violence
Are there early warning signs of domestic violence? What early signs tell the difference between charisma and real character?
Domestic Violence is a gendered offense
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime and we treat it as such. Some people, mostly men, disagree with our approach. Here is our response.
Changing our lives
Mickey Mantle told his fans, “Don’t be like me.”, hoping to change their lives away from the mistakes that were about to cost him his.
How to select a judicial candidate
How do you select a judicial candidate to vote for? Make sure the family court judge you vote for is qualified. Read this article before voting.
Recovering from coronavirus crisis
As we recover from Coronavirus the Quincy Solution will help the economy, reduce domestic violence, and protect children in our family courts #custody
Believing Sexual Abuse Survivors
Sexual abuse reports. Who should we believe? Trump, Kavanaugh, and Biden are they all the same or is there a difference? An expert’s view.
What’s a shelter to do? Helping during a health crisis
For Domestic Violence victims and the shelters that protect them COVID-19 and sheltering in place brings special complications. How are they coping?
How Goats Became the Mascots for Protective Mothers
At a time we can use a laugh or a chuckle an explanation of how goats became the mascots of the Protective Mothers Movement
Costa Rica saves child US gave to sex offender
Costa Rica’s courts saved a child from his father’s sexual abuse contradicting a US family court order awarding custody to the sex offender.
Safe and Together Institute
Easy to see the intersection of domestic violence and child maltreatment but ignored by judges but not the Safe and Together Institute.
The facts about guns and intimate partner violence
Statistics, research, and the background about guns and Intimate Partner Violence from Rachel Graber of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Escape, sanctuary, confusion: an update on one woman’s journey
Escaping abuse, home, friends, family and danger, means uncertainty of the future, and often the discovery and further victimization of the mother
Domestic violence, rape and sexual assault
If you are offended by criticism of people who minimize gendered crimes like domestic violence, rape and sexual assault, you’ll not appreciate this article!
How do abusive Dads perceive their fathering?
We know what we think of abusive Dads; but what do they think? How do physically abusive men percieve themselves as dads? And why?
Misogyny and bigotry are behind the killers
Sexism and racism is often subtle behavior, offensive words rather than physical assaults. Until we stop these behaviours we can’t stop mass killings.
Judge orders boy into father’s custody despite sexual abuse
A small boy told authorities that daddy played the “penis game” with him, the judge orders the boy into father’s custody and more sexual abuse.
This boy deserves protection not sexual abuse.
El Nino Sol talks about his father’s Penis Games. We call it child sex abuse. The courts are sending him back to his father. Help us protect him.
Custody Court Crisis: Save my son from his father’s sexual abuse
I was supposed to testify as an expert witness to save a child from “The Penis Game” and a mother from a long prison term for trying to protect him.
Gaslighting: How to recognize and survive it.
Gaslighting is abuse. It is an act of violence, be it domestic violence, workplace, or elsewhere. Know how to recognize and survive it.
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas through prioritising the health and safety of children in Texas’ custody courts.
Research, geography, and intimate partner violence
Research is important, but so is perfecting research. Especially in the areas of Intimate Partner Violence.
How to appreciate survivors of abuse, while supporting it’s victims
Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault and other traumas are rightly proud of overcoming the horrendous mistreatment they have suffered. At the same time, victims of abuse want understanding and support for the enormous harm they have suffered. Survivors are...
Rural women and violence
Rural women and violence Airing Saturday, January 19, at 11 AM Pacific Time, Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways. Is there a difference between the violence women in urban areas suffer and the violence that rural...
Why men abuse women and what makes them stop
Four decades after domestic violence first became a public issue our courts still don’t understand why men abuse women. That’s dangerous for children.
Will the #MeToo movement increase America’s life expectancy?
“Americans are dying younger, as drug overdoses and suicide kill an increasing number of people, according to a grim new set of government statistics” The Guardian. Life expectancy declined in 2017, falling to 78.6 years, according to the new Centers for Disease...
How insurance companies can cut costs by stopping domestic violence
Health insurance companies can save hundreds of millions of dollars by preventing domestic abuse instead of denying patient services.
Ask Lisa Ling to protect children in custody court cases
Ask Lisa Ling to set the record straight. Her dangerous show on Parental Alienation puts children's very health and safety at risk. You can read the email we sent to ask Lisa Ling to look at all the available research from the Department of Justice and the CDC, listen...
Domestic Violence Awareness Hasn’t Caught Up With #MeToo. Here’s Why.
By Sarah Mervosh When Kaylee Kapatos posted on Facebook this month that she was a survivor of domestic violence, using the hashtag #WhyIStayed, the response among her friends was muted. Only the week before, she had posted about sexual assault with the hashtag...
What’s in a name? Especially when it’s hers?
What do we think about women who keep their surnames after marriage? And what do we think about their husbands? The answers are both surprising and telling.
Electronic abuse and intimate partner violence
When we think about intimate partner violence we think about yelling and hitting. We don’t think about electronic abuse; smartphones, thermostats and Alexa.
Domestic violence signs and ways to protect someone
People shouldn’t experience domestic violence.Here are signs of domestic violence and ways people can be people be protected from it.
Lenient judge in stanford rape case removed from office
California voters just recalled the judge who famously gave Brock Turner a ridiculously short sentence. This raises some real concerns among legal exerts, but leaving him on the bench would raise some real concerns among everyone.
Life after abuse. A guide to financial planning to secure your future
98% of women in abusive relationships do not to leave due to a lack of money. Abuse does not stop there because the children are also in harm’s way.
Crisis hotlines: who, what, and why?
A lot of people call or chat crisis intervention help lines but what do they really offer, who exactly uses them, and do they really help?
Healthcare response to intimate partner violence
Do doctors know they should screen for intimate partner violence? Do they know how to? And what should their response be if they find a victim?
Gendered offenses are different from other offenses. Don’t accept the trauma excuse
Trauma is responsible for a lot of bad behavior. But it is not an excuse, particularly for gendered violence and abuse. This is an important distinction.
Choking. Strangulation. Whatever you call it, it happens way too often
Choking or strangulation is shockingly common in domestic violence. What do you need to know about it? Can it be treated? How can we prevent it?
Most kidnapped children are taken by a parent. That doesn’t mean they’re safe.
Authorities rarely recognize the seriousness of one partner kidnapping their kids from the other. Their ignorance and apathy can have grave consequences.
Why Aren’t We Listening?
The system that is designed to listen to children when claims of abuse are brought forth is failing the children it should protect.
Do Not Suffer In Silence #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
He never hit me
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
Still another mass shooting by domestic violence perpetrator
Most perpetrators of mass shootings are also perpetrators of domestic violence. This needs to guide legislators as they develop domestic violence laws.
The facts behind missing children like Krystal Alvarez
Discover the facts behind missing children and the scary stories that we hear. How do you protect your child?
Quincy Solution to Haskell Murder
The Haskell murder, in which a man killed his entire family except for one girl who could flee and call the police, is all the more tragic because we know how to prevent it.
Sarah Palin and the Abuse Excuse
Domestic violence is not caused by mental illness, and when high-profile politician, like Sarah Palin, says otherwise it hurts victims.
Bullying and domestic violence
Bullying and domestic violence: If we want children to be nice to each other, we need to watch how we treat them and how we treat each other.
Practical Solution To Reduction In Life Expectancy
Research released by the National Center for Health Statistics found life expectancy dropped from 78.9 to 78.8 years in 2015.
This Is What You Made Me Do
The killer told his victim that his former girlfriend was the reason he was going to die that day. “This is what you made me do.”
Domestic Violence and Mass Shootings
Mass shootings and domestic violence are both common and connected. So bills to disarm domestic abusers make us all safer.
How I Got In, and How I Got Out
Why didn’t I leave? I write this is story about how I got into, and then out of, years of domestic violence hell in the hope that it helps others.
