Welcome to our Family Court Custody Crisis blog.
What experts see as Domestic Violence cases Courts treat as High Conflict cases. Most divorces typically settle without a trial, but in some 3.8% of cases, where parents are fighting over custody and visitation of their children, you’ll almost inevitably find Domestic Violence or Coercive Control.
America’s Custody Courts are failing to protect America’s children’s health and safety because they are not considering crucial scientific research and often relying on the wrong experts.
These are the cases the courts get wrong; most of the time. These are the children the Safe Child Act protects.
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TRIGGER WARNING: Brave DV survivor tells her story. It starts with a father who hit her mother with a sledgehammer, but it doesn’t end there.
Thanks to countless advocates, family court reform is being reinforced! What does Kayden’s Law Provision of VAWA mean for protective parents?
When Angelina Jolie filed for divorce from Brad Pitt, she initiated a custody battle that underscores the ramifications of equal parenting.
Was your child harmed by a custody decision? NY Governor is holding two hearings this month on Forensic Evaluators. Tell your story.
A victory shows why family courts usually fail abuse victims. The ACE research helps courts understand the harm from DV and child abuse.
The child abuse and custody professionals responsible for protecting children from child abuse and determining custody are failing.
Family courts are supposed to protect the best interests of the child but too often they promote the worst interests of the child.
A family court judge stepped in to protect a child saying only fools would be convinced by false evidence of alienation.
From an author of one of the leading books on representing the domestic violence survivor. How to find a good Domestic Violence attorney.
The high-conflict divorce approach is designed to help parents have a successful co-parenting relationship. The reality is very different.
Kyra Franchetti did not need to die. Help us pass Kyra’s Law and make a child’s health and safety the top priority in child custody cases.
Should Domestic Violence affect a father’s visitation rights? It should if Family Courts want to protect children from abuse and neglect.
Kyra’s Law will make a child’s health and safety the top priority in custody cases, rather than the standard “best interest” of the child.
Kyra’s Law introduced in the NYS Assembly moves our writer to tears because it will make the New York Family Courts safe for kids.
Kaydens Law will fix family courts in Pennsylvania by requiring that the health and safety of children must be the first priority.
Hank Aaron died of natural causes when he was 86-years-old. A long life, longer than average life expectancy, but could he have lived longer?
Judges, lawyers, and evaluators often minimize domestic violence (DV) by referring to the dispute as “he-said-she-said.” They’re wrong.
Family Court Judge trained in ACE Study Research makes contested custody decision saving a child from an abusive father.
The 2012 Saunders Study found that Domestic Violence Experts would benefit the family courts. Little has changed since.
What is in the best interests of the child? Family Courts make these decisions all the time. How are they doing with children’s lives?
Ft. Hood is the latest scandal where victims of sexual mistreatment and DV were retraumatized by people supposed to protect them.
In a two-part series with the ACECC Journal, we will discuss prenatal non-physical abuse and the long-term effects on children.
Are there early warning signs of domestic violence? What early signs tell the difference between charisma and real character?
How three decades of history are driving family courts throughout the West to make consistently irrational and dangerous decisions.
Domestic Violence is a gendered crime and we treat it as such. Some people, mostly men, disagree with our approach. Here is our response.
Protective mothers are simply normal and caring mothers who love their children and will do whatever is necessary to protect them.
58,000 children a year are sent for custody or unprotected visitation with dangerous abusers. In 10 years, over 750 were murdered.
Naysayers fail to understand how requiring the health and safety of children as first priority fundamentally changes the courts’ response.
Family Courts favor abusers and harm children. Custody courts are mishandling 95% of abuse cases causing suffering and death.
Mickey Mantle told his fans, “Don’t be like me.”, hoping to change their lives away from the mistakes that were about to cost him his.
The research makes it clear that Family Courts get most domestic violence custody cases wrong and often dangerously wrong. This article explains what may cause courts to tilt in favor of abusive fathers and away from protecting children. We know judges don’t want to hurt children, so why haven’t courts found a way to review their outdated practices and create reforms that focus on keeping children safe and healthy?
How do you select a judicial candidate to vote for? Make sure the family court judge you vote for is qualified. Read this article before voting.
As we recover from Coronavirus the Quincy Solution will help the economy, reduce domestic violence, and protect children in our family courts #custody
Sexual abuse reports. Who should we believe? Trump, Kavanaugh, and Biden are they all the same or is there a difference? An expert’s view.
For Domestic Violence victims and the shelters that protect them COVID-19 and sheltering in place brings special complications. How are they coping?
Listen to the scientists. Good advice for everyone, especially family court judges responding to domestic violence and child abuse.
At a time we can use a laugh or a chuckle an explanation of how goats became the mascots of the Protective Mothers Movement
Imagine what safe family courts would look like if family court administrators updated their practices and made the courts safe for children.
What about the victims of domestic violence who because of coronavirus or COVID19 are sheltering in place with their abuser? And what about their children?
More than 700 dead children show how America’s custody courts are failing children. Leading custody expert Barry Goldstein’s article shows why.
Family courts repeat their mistakes causing 700 children to lose their lives over 10 years. Barry Goldstein shows product recalls protect children better.
Costa Rica’s courts saved a child from his father’s sexual abuse contradicting a US family court order awarding custody to the sex offender.
Family Court’s failure to recognize abuser legal tactics creates a pretend world that mimics the gaslighting tactics used by abusers.
The standard practices are not just wrong in cases involving domestic violence and child abuse; they are dangerous! What judges don’t know is hurting kids.
The worst domestic violence abusers believe their partners have no right to leave. These are cases where partners and children like Kayden are killed.
On August 6, 2018, seven-year-old Kayden Mancuso was murdered by her father. Kayden’s law would have protected her, we can still protect other kids.
US response to sexual abuse favors rapists because gendered crimes have been long denied and minimized, and men’s lives treated as more important.
California Protective Parent Association (CPPA), creates awareness through research and education and holds court officials accountable for child safety
Easy to see the intersection of domestic violence and child maltreatment but ignored by judges but not the Safe and Together Institute.
In the last 10 years, over 700 children involved in contested custody have been murdered usually by abusive fathers. Do women have the right to leave?
Kayden’s father killed her to hurt her mother. He said so in a note. A judge gave him enough access to murder her. Kayden’s Law will change that.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Started in 1981 it is supposed to stop men from beating their wives, but the numbers are getting worse.
Statistics, research, and the background about guns and Intimate Partner Violence from Rachel Graber of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Escaping abuse, home, friends, family and danger, means uncertainty of the future, and often the discovery and further victimization of the mother
If you are offended by criticism of people who minimize gendered crimes like domestic violence, rape and sexual assault, you’ll not appreciate this article!
We know what we think of abusive Dads; but what do they think? How do physically abusive men percieve themselves as dads? And why?
Sexism and racism is often subtle behavior, offensive words rather than physical assaults. Until we stop these behaviours we can’t stop mass killings.
Maralee Maclean fights for justice for her daughter’s sexual abuse by her father. After experiencing this injustice she helps others find justice.
The high conflict approach makes it possible for courts to get even the easiest cases wrong. Our children deserve an approach that is not fatally flawed.
A small boy told authorities that daddy played the “penis game” with him, the judge orders the boy into father’s custody and more sexual abuse.
El Nino Sol talks about his father’s Penis Games. We call it child sex abuse. The courts are sending him back to his father. Help us protect him.
Why don’t Custody courts have time to protect children? They focus on saving time, not what’s important. They must make health and safety the first priority.
She’s crazy. That seems to be the song abusers, judges, psychologists and other experts sing in divorce and custody battles as they ignore the violence.
A judge refused a protective order for Zoey Pereira aged 3. Her father burnt her alive. Ten years, and over 650 children murdered in Custody Court Crisis.
Why are judges unaware of the Custody Court Crisis when so many precious children are being harmed and even murdered. Are judges not listening?
I was supposed to testify as an expert witness to save a child from “The Penis Game” and a mother from a long prison term for trying to protect him.
Why are custody courts such a mess? What constitutional issues do they raise? Who’s to blame when courts fails to protect the best interests of children?
Gaslighting is abuse. It is an act of violence, be it domestic violence, workplace, or elsewhere. Know how to recognize and survive it.
Mothers are sounding alarm about NY domestic violence laws. Far too often violent batterers are awarded child custody with potential deadly consequences.
The Safe Child Act HB 3121 will protect children in Texas through prioritising the health and safety of children in Texas’ custody courts.
Custody Court Crisis: Texas to put children’s safety and health first. Texas becomes the fifth state to introduce the Safe Child Act into legislation.
Research is important, but so is perfecting research. Especially in the areas of Intimate Partner Violence.
Mikayla is a girl who will be five-years-old forever because the court in Minnesota failed to protect her. Help her mother tell her story at the BMCC.
The court’s first duty should be a child’s health and safety but they routinely create shared parenting arrangements that put children in danger.
Evidence provided by Barry Goldstein to the CT hearing. Parental Alienation Syndrome is a debunked theory at the center of the Custody Court Crisis.
Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault and other traumas are rightly proud of overcoming the horrendous mistreatment they have suffered. At the same time, victims of abuse want understanding and support for the enormous harm they have suffered. Survivors are...
Family Court and the Catholic Church: Shattering the last taboos for institutions that fail our children
Secrecy and lack of accountability. Courts, and the male-dominated church, refuse to believe that a father would abuse his own child.
For children involved in contested custody cases the answer is a lot more than you think. Both stories involve domestic violence and sexual abuse.
Rural women and violence Airing Saturday, January 19, at 11 AM Pacific Time, Available after through the archive at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways. Is there a difference between the violence women in urban areas suffer and the violence that rural...
Expert witness How bias and unreliability can affect your court case Airing Saturday, January 12, at 11 AM Pacific Time Available thereafter through the archive Anyone who watches TV, or goes through a custody battle, or knows someone who has tangled with the courts,...
Four decades after domestic violence first became a public issue our courts still don’t understand why men abuse women. That’s dangerous for children.
“Americans are dying younger, as drug overdoses and suicide kill an increasing number of people, according to a grim new set of government statistics” The Guardian. Life expectancy declined in 2017, falling to 78.6 years, according to the new Centers for Disease...
Health insurance companies can save hundreds of millions of dollars by preventing domestic abuse instead of denying patient services.
Faith Was Misplaced: Now Faith is Lost Another fatal child custody decision leads to another child suicide. Custody courts are in crisis. Children are paying the price. This child was 13 years old. Her name was Faith. Another child who could have been protected if the...
Ask Lisa Ling to set the record straight. Her dangerous show on Parental Alienation puts children's very health and safety at risk. You can read the email we sent to ask Lisa Ling to look at all the available research from the Department of Justice and the CDC, listen...
Custody Court Crisis: Genia Shockome’s custody case should have been the easiest custody case ever. I lost my law license. Others lost their lives.
By Sarah Mervosh When Kaylee Kapatos posted on Facebook this month that she was a survivor of domestic violence, using the hashtag #WhyIStayed, the response among her friends was muted. Only the week before, she had posted about sexual assault with the hashtag...
Why did Kavanaugh supporters use non-probative information. Isn’t this a discredited tactic? There are women who commit sexual abuse and domestic violence, but overwhelmingly, these crimes are committed by men and boys against women and children. A specialized body of...
What do we think about women who keep their surnames after marriage? And what do we think about their husbands? The answers are both surprising and telling.
The high cost of fighting for your child. What does protecting your child from a partner who wants to hurt you and them cost? Time, energy… and a lot of money
When we think about intimate partner violence we think about yelling and hitting. We don’t think about electronic abuse; smartphones, thermostats and Alexa.
The day scheduled for Mikayla’s first day in kindergarten instead became the day of her funeral. This avoidable tragedy occurred because her father was a dangerous abuser who knew the best way to hurt Mikayla’s mother was to kill Mikayla. Mikayla died because too...
Kayden Mancuso was killed by a man who was known to be dangerous. But since he was her father, a judge gave him the access he needed to kill her.
People shouldn’t experience domestic violence.Here are signs of domestic violence and ways people can be people be protected from it.
Research shows that child abuse and childhood exposure to domestic violence have life-long negative consequences for kids. But family court judges don’t know this, and until they do children will be harmed
California voters just recalled the judge who famously gave Brock Turner a ridiculously short sentence. This raises some real concerns among legal exerts, but leaving him on the bench would raise some real concerns among everyone.
If the United States were to provide the same financial compensation and respect to protective mothers as it provides to Gold Star military mothers, our family courts would change quickly.
98% of women in abusive relationships do not to leave due to a lack of money. Abuse does not stop there because the children are also in harm’s way.
A lot of people call or chat crisis intervention help lines but what do they really offer, who exactly uses them, and do they really help?
No one thinks of divorces as easy or fun, but ones involving domestic violence or drug use are actually traumatic, and a lot more.
Everyone agrees that our family courts are broken. But one of the popular proposed remedies will endanger children.
Do doctors know they should screen for intimate partner violence? Do they know how to? And what should their response be if they find a victim?
What happens to kids who are taken away from a safe parent and handed to an abuser because of the Custody Court Crisis? Listen to a courageous kid’s story
When custody courts deal with allegations of abuse and parental alienation they make dangerous decisions most of the time.
Dylan Farrow’s life still includes the injustice that comes with the way we deal with sex abuse. We need to listen to survivors.
Trauma is responsible for a lot of bad behavior. But it is not an excuse, particularly for gendered violence and abuse. This is an important distinction.
Choking or strangulation is shockingly common in domestic violence. What do you need to know about it? Can it be treated? How can we prevent it?
It feels like we have been inundated with a variety of sex scandals that seemed to start with Harvey Weinstein. The responses vary depending on political or financial interests and ignorance about sexism and misogyny. I can understand how many people might seek to...
DV expert Barry Goldstein and Stop Abuse Campaign’s Andrew Willis discuss how fixing the family court means protecting children not abusers.
Protective mothers have said for years that the flawed practices in custody courts hurt the children. Court officials have reacted defensively.
Like many mass murderers with a record of domestic violence, Devin Kelley was given leniency instead of strict accountability and monitoring.
What’s new with domestic violence? What does all the jargon mean? Why are there so many terms, and do they all mean the same thing anyway?
An interview with the director of the upcoming documentary What Doesn’t Kill Me, about family court-ordered abuse
Courts can now access scientific research from highly credible sources that can be used to recognize domestic violence and child abuse.
Domestic violence experts provide objective information that can save children. Courts must embrace them or continue to destroy children’s lives.
Authorities rarely recognize the seriousness of one partner kidnapping their kids from the other. Their ignorance and apathy can have grave consequences.
Professor Meier has just released a long-awaited article describing the findings of a pilot study showing court mistreatment of protective mothers.
New DOJ research shows family courts across the US are more worried about upsetting abusive fathers than they are about protecting vulnerable children.
Losing Grace taught me how it feels when your child or grandchild is taken from you and handed to her abuser. I will never forget her face.
The system that is designed to listen to children when claims of abuse are brought forth is failing the children it should protect.
Amber, a student at Indiana University South Bend, writes about her research into emotional abuse and the #maybehedoesnthityou hashtag
More evidence comes out showing that Johnny Depp badly abused his ex-wife, the media is still reluctant to talk about it properly and intelligently.
People focused on the “shared responsibility of the marital breakdown” and the abuse not acknowledged. In the middle is a one-year-old child.
If he hit me I would leave. The truth is I still wouldn’t have left then. I would rationalize that hitting me would show him how out of hand things were.
In the US and many other countries Custody Courts are taking children from safe mothers, ‘Mothers of Lost Children,’ and giving custody to dangerous abusers
I want a divorce. These four words would forever change my life. I blurted them out without even hesitating as I sat in the car.
Most perpetrators of mass shootings are also perpetrators of domestic violence. This needs to guide legislators as they develop domestic violence laws.
When judges ignore research and best practices regarding domestic violence and child abuse, they endanger children
Discover the facts behind missing children and the scary stories that we hear. How do you protect your child?
Custody courts, like doctors, should commit to do no harm. Courts should not hurt children; but there is overwhelming evidence they often do.
Two sisters run away from the father they allege is abusing them. A custody court judge forced them to go back and live with their father.
Family court has given rise to some of the worst judges imaginable.
Custody courts are to Domestic Violence what General Practitioners are to cancer. Informed but not experts. They miss true reports of abuse.
The Haskell murder, in which a man killed his entire family except for one girl who could flee and call the police, is all the more tragic because we know how to prevent it.
The Catholic Church, Seattle diocese, fights statute of limitations reform while they released names of 77 abusive church employees. What are they hiding?
Major media publications are picking starting to report on the nation’s Family Court crisis. Now what?
Experts know that batterers use children to further abuse their partners and that abusers sometimes murder their children.
The Boston Globe examines the custody court crisis. Judges and legislators should do the same before more children are harmed
A child runs away from home as a cry for help or a desperate act to protect themselves from abuse. Why do we punish kids for it?
Domestic violence is not caused by mental illness, and when high-profile politician, like Sarah Palin, says otherwise it hurts victims.
Connecticut established a task force to study minors exposed to domestic violence. Better idea, let’s stop domestic violence.
Judge Gorcyca sent a 9, 10 and 13 year old to juvenile detention after they refused to meet their father. A lesson in the ‘success’ of forced reunification.
How do we stop domestic violence? Read Barry Goldstein’s recently released new book: Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody Vol. II.
Family court systematically destroys good mothers who are battered by their partners or protecting abused children by placing the children in the hands of the abuser
New research from the DOJ found the courts give more importance to discredited alienation theory than domestic violence or child abuse,
The research proves that estrangement from an abusive parent is better for children than being abused. Family courts tend to get that wrong, which is why kids tend to get hurt.
Here’s what we said in our letter to the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges about custody court reform.
Bullying and domestic violence: If we want children to be nice to each other, we need to watch how we treat them and how we treat each other.
When judges are doing everything as they’re supposed to, they still harm kids. That’s a problem, but there are solutions. Why aren’t we using them?
Research released by the National Center for Health Statistics found life expectancy dropped from 78.9 to 78.8 years in 2015.
Shared parenting is promoted as the ideal situation for divorced parents, under the right conditions it might be, but it is an abuser’s best friend.
A review of Maralee McLean’s book “Prosecuted but not Silenced” that illustrates how America’s family courts typically harm children and good mothers
Family courts must put the health and safety of children first in custody and visitation decisions. The Safe Child Act will ensure they do.
The Safe Child Act has the potential to improve our broken family court system in dramatic ways.
Protective mothers are angry that custody courts often place their children in danger. 10 routine custody court practices place children at risk.
The killer told his victim that his former girlfriend was the reason he was going to die that day. “This is what you made me do.”
Judges who believe that Parental Alienation Syndrome is a serious issue that harms children are not looking at the research.
I had hopes that a quick divorce would mean working together raising our kids.Nine years, $100,000, and so many hours in court, and I still lost custody.
Mass shootings and domestic violence are both common and connected. So bills to disarm domestic abusers make us all safer.
The man who murdered Prince McLeod Rams was convicted of domestic violence but the courts gave him access to his son.
Rape, child abuse, and domestic violence have a huge economic cost to communities that could be saved if we just believed women.
If you had to watch a good mother hand her baby over to a dangerous abusive partner, what would you do? Doing anything may land you in court or maybe jail.
Safe parenting takes a back seat when you are forced into dangerous shared parenting by courts who minimize abuse of women and kids.
Women and children are often disbelieved in rape cases. Courts hear their truth from abusers. Women and children rarely make false reports.
Disbelieving rape reports from women is common. Women will continue to suffer as long as we ignore the research that shows they don’t lie.
Why didn’t I leave? I write this is story about how I got into, and then out of, years of domestic violence hell in the hope that it helps others.
Family courts consistently protect sex offenders, endanger children and punish protective parents
Bresha Meadows is a 14-year-old-girl whose mother couldn’t get a protective order because of the custody court crisis. Then she murdered her abusive father.
The Saunders study was commissioned by the US Department of Justice and showed how children are at risk in family court DV cases.
How could Bill Cosby rape more than 50 women over a number of decades while maintaining his success and popularity?
Like one quarter of American women, I was in a mom in an abusive relationship. When I realized he was abusing my kids I left, and raised my children myself.
Men convicted of rape who impregnate their victims have parental rights over the babies born from their crimes. But what about the impact on the child?
3 innocent children sent to jail, compared to Charles Manson and sent for reunification treatment that has been described by some victims as threat therapy
Kelly Rutherford was involved in an all too common custody case. The circumstances would suggest the court had an easy decision; maintain custody with the mother. But the court instead reached a decision that defies logic and clearly places the children in jeopardy. ...
A Narcissist may emotionally abuse those in their daily family lives. This emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence that impacts children.